Though it is hard, I am trying to move on. But I also think one must keep the faith at least for a while. take that time to get back on my feet, renew myself, recover things I left aside. That is what I am trying to do and though I have my ups and downs, I'm holding it together. Why? because I feel there is still a chance. I haven't called or messaged him at all. When the time comes, I'll see how I feel and how he feels. Whatever happens, these first few weeks of agony I will have gone through, so I think I'll be pretty toughened up. Even if he doesn't wanna get back together, the blow won't be as hard.
I know exactly what u are saying about him not being with me, but what I try to explain is that there are other possibilities too, people can make mistakes or make mistakes. It might not be his case, but I know for certain that if I play my cards right I can get him back.
I think at least in the beginning it is OK to have faith and hope, as long as u don't feed it in excess. If one keeps themselves away from that person, and takes the time to find themselves again, perhaps that little spark that attracted your partner in the first place can be lit again. I just feel there are things to be lived yet, and my intuition is right most of the time.
However, i am going out with friends, not closing any doors, and being patient. That is the hardest part.
Thanks for your words though, I would have agreed with u entirely if it was regarding my first boyfriend, who was an asshole.
Thanks again.
Good. See, I'm not saying there isn't any possibility in the future but think about it, if he dumped you for whatever reason and then realized it was a mistake, would you want him back? If you really love him, sure, go for it and if not, you have realized that you are entitled to partner who confidently wants to be with you. You deserve that, you really do. But with all of this stated, you still shouldn't contemplate this day or night. The future isn't up to him or you, it just happens. You just have to go with the flow. So, instead of thinking about the ifs, buts and whens, continue to enjoy your life with your friends, withOUT the ex and be happy. Because ultimately, that's all you can do and if you're not happy alone, how can you be happy with someone else?
Hi Syd,
Though it is hard, I am trying to move on. But I also think one must keep the faith at least for a while. take that time to get back on my feet, renew myself, recover things I left aside. That is what I am trying to do and though I have my ups and downs, I'm holding it together. Why? because I feel there is still a chance. I haven't called or messaged him at all. When the time comes, I'll see how I feel and how he feels. Whatever happens, these first few weeks of agony I will have gone through, so I think I'll be pretty toughened up. Even if he doesn't wanna get back together, the blow won't be as hard.
I know exactly what u are saying about him not being with me, but what I try to explain is that there are other possibilities too, people can make mistakes or make mistakes. It might not be his case, but I know for certain that if I play my cards right I can get him back.
I think at least in the beginning it is OK to have faith and hope, as long as u don't feed it in excess. If one keeps themselves away from that person, and takes the time to find themselves again, perhaps that little spark that attracted your partner in the first place can be lit again. I just feel there are things to be lived yet, and my intuition is right most of the time.
However, i am going out with friends, not closing any doors, and being patient. That is the hardest part.
Thanks for your words though, I would have agreed with u entirely if it was regarding my first boyfriend, who was an asshole.
Thanks again.
Good. See, I'm not saying there isn't any possibility in the future but think about it, if he dumped you for whatever reason and then realized it was a mistake, would you want him back? If you really love him, sure, go for it and if not, you have realized that you are entitled to partner who confidently wants to be with you. You deserve that, you really do. But with all of this stated, you still shouldn't contemplate this day or night. The future isn't up to him or you, it just happens. You just have to go with the flow. So, instead of thinking about the ifs, buts and whens, continue to enjoy your life with your friends, withOUT the ex and be happy. Because ultimately, that's all you can do and if you're not happy alone, how can you be happy with someone else?
Hope that helped. Take care hun.