Lady Devil,
I agree with you in some points, but not in others. I don't like being used, and I don't like macho-types. That's why I fell for my two last boyfriends, but they turned out to be jerks anyways- not really jerks, one was a bit emotionally unstable, and the other was just immature. I don't go around dating or sleeping around because I just can't do that with someone I don't like or love, and I find it hard to find someone who will attract me enough. I don't like drama and I never played passive-aggressive or other typical female games. The guys really have nothing to complain about, and they would gladly tell u that. I just need someone more mature and sure of who they are and what they want. I tend to have a lot of faith in people, and though I end up disappointed, I know there are good people out there.
I too have a degree in psychology and know chemistry fades away, but that's not all I was referring to. Emotional and intellectual connections are something else. U should read National Geographics February issue, which had an article about love, dopamine and oxitocine. Very interesting.
I surely don't want to be with someone who uses me, but I don't want to use anyone either. I'm not saying how anyone else should live their life, I just know that I cannot be with someone if I don't feel that special something. I just can't, so if I have to wait another few years or forever, so be it.
I want to fulfill myself and as i said before, find someone who will love me in the way I love. I have come to the conclusion their is no one correct love or definition of love- everyone loves in a different way which isn't better or worse, u just have to find someone who shares YOUR vision.
Thanks for your words though, perhaps I am an idealist and need a few more broken hearts to kill my faith