You know what you are doing is not healthy and I am not judging you. I have done a similar thing. I can give advice on this because i have made my own mistakes and it is easier to be objective with an advisor.
You have to stop contacting him- no matter what it takes. It is a bit of an addiction and the more you do it, the harder it is to stop. The detox is going to be tough. What he is doing is very childish. If he is playing games and just wants to get to you, that's not a friend at all. If he just doesn't care, then why bother.
However, the only way you will know is if you ignore him for atleast 10 days. That's long enough for him to not make an excuse that you are busy and to come around if he does want to speak with you again. Do you have hotmail IM? If he always is offline, he may have blocked you as a contact. If he appears online and ignoring you, he could just be away from his computer a lot or he is a jerk that is enjoying this.
This is what you should do, if you can, Block him as a contact. He won't know that you did this. You will just appear offline. That way you will be unavailable. I don't think that you can receive emails from him if you do this. Unblock him after 10 days and then if you hear from him, you can take it from there. If not, you have to let it go and the longer you prolong your pain and get ignored, the harder it will be. Write in your journal, picture him picking his nose, think of his biggest insecurity. Do anything but contact him!! I know how it is. Once you contact them for answers and don't like their response, you have to undo it and you start making assumptions. It is like a viscious cycle. Stop! Cold Turkey! You can do it. Go on a date with another guy!!

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