I understand tough love. You don't want to encourage a person to be self destructive. But comparing someone to a whore and calling her a dumb bitch is not helpful. That would make me feel ten times worse. This person is vulnerable right now and she will internalize these things. She is acknowledging there is a problem with her behavior so already has some insight. I think " Don't be so pathetic and get off your ass" is as far as tough love should go. Also, this woman is not a dumb bitch. It's not true. This guy is using her but if he had zero feelings for her beyond sex, this would not have gone on for so long. He could always find sex somewhere else without tolerating the bullshit of the girl's attachment so he has sent her mixed messages. She needs to let it go and he is a jerk. But your analysis is off. We are all people both men and women. All this, he's not just that into you and the rules. There are not formulas for human behavior. Everyone situaton is unique. This guy is behaving just as pathetically and deplorably. I think by making women feel like they are out of control for expressing their feelings is disempowering. So, maybe she made a fool of herself and the guy doesn't give a shit. But who cares what the hell he thinks. Who is he? The key is for her to not make him so important and learn from this, not beat herself up and feel like a "dumb bitch or whore" and move on to someone else. There is no excuse for that posting. It was mean spirited and awful and I am really disgusted by it. Calling someone such awful things. This is for advice and honesty but not horrible insults.