I have reasently had the reality told to me about my now exlover. I knew what was happening but had to hear it from her mouth. We have had great times together and the status of our relationship was part time at best exept for a trusting open minded set of rules that was comfy for her as friends with benefits . I really fell for her and she for me but only as deep as she set the boundries.There now is an old freind of the family that had her rethink being single .She has decided that he has changed her attitude toward loving and Im the odd man out now .Damn it hurts .She still wants to be buddies and for me there is no way i can be the same person as i was .At one point we decided to be known as seeing each other adn she backed away after a short time ,but we stayed friends with benfits .The new guy came on the scene and it seems swept her off her feet .Now I feel that if and when the love goes out of her present situation she will be comming back to me .I have to tell her no way as she had her chance .Whos to say she wont do it again .Inot up to that and even though it will break my heart alittle more ,She had her chance.I did learn something by reading this blog and from passed experience ...we wont ever be "us " with her .again..... thanks for letting me vent .all the best to all of you .