Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 11/27/2006 - 4:43pm.
Women don't play games better than men. The just play differently. The best game men play is stupid. We are excellent at playing stupid, simply because that is our defense mechanism. As long as we play dumb, it will one, shut her up, two make her think she is smarter than you so down the road she can find out in her infinite smartness when her life crashes and burns that she is actually fucking stupid (that is how they seem to learn), and three, so she may have pity on you and give you some head so you will stop talking "stupid".
Silence is another game we play. If we talk too much, we give up too much information about ourselves, thus making us more vulnerable to becoming victims of their games. Likewise talking tends to invoke more talking. Good communication is essential to every working relationship, but you have to know how to communicate with a "crazy" person. Trying to communicate directly will only make you just as crazy. Hence men have learned to not be drawn into the "craziness" by not overly conversing. Communication does not involve you (the man) talking. It involves you listening and interpreting. You have to translate what she is saying into "reality". So the process for men is, listen, then de-code the message, then speak...ONLY IF NECESSARY! Most times a grunt and a nod in some positive or negative manner is all that is needed. To help you further understand this concept you have to pay attention to how women hear and think. First and foremost, they have translators in their brains like the ear piece of a UN ambassador. These translators encode everything that you say into exactly what they want (or don't want) to hear. It has absolutely nothing to do with what you are actually telling them. Men tend to speak directly, what we say is what we mean. Let’s call this language "reality". Women take what you say and translate it into the language the understand, lets call it "crazy". For instance if you say something like, "We should join a gym", she did not hear what you said. She did not hear you say "I think I want to join this gym so I can work out, and get in a little better shape, and keep my health up, and...so on...so on...all the positive reasons for joining a gym. What her translators told her was "HE THINKS I AM FAT". In this instance one of three things will happen, she will instantly lash out at you, catch you off guard and have you following behind her saying "what did I say?" (be scared), or she will begin to ask questions to probe what she thinks you are saying, (not what actually came out of you mouth), thus attempting to draw you into further conversation and eventually snaring you into saying something that validates what the translator in her mind told her "meant" (be very scared). The last approach she may take is the silent attitude(the attitude may not be immediately noticed). She will sit there and stew in her translated juices. She will grow increasingly upset or hurt. She will begin to show signs of serious displeasure, only to cause you to make the fatal mistake......"what's wrong with you?" (MORTAL KOMBAT FATALITY). She will not answer your question. She will tell you "nothing" is wrong, because, of course, you are supposed to know. Now she has you scouring over the course of the conversation looking for what when wrong, looking for the flaw, trying to figure out what you said wrong, then you think over the course of the day, then the week, the month, and pretty soon, you are as "crazy" as she is. She won. And when she finally figures out that she was just being stupid and that you really meant you just wanted to go to the gym, you are so crazy and enraged that your mind can't put together a comprehensible sentence (environ-mental meltdown). In a relationship, the men's part of communication means, pay attention to the road, be prepared for unstable, even hazardous road conditions. Men, with practice, can think "crazy" without becoming crazy. It is little more than mental karate - defense against the dark arts of "CRAAAZZZYYYY" (we must teach the youth). So one of our best defenses is SILENCE. It is truly Golden.
So in conclusion women play their games, and we play ours. Who ever wins depends on the ultimate objective and who's the better player. In healthy relationships, the objective is for everyone to win. (Understand-Negotiate-Compromise!)
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Women don't play games better than men. The just play differently. The best game men play is stupid. We are excellent at playing stupid, simply because that is our defense mechanism. As long as we play dumb, it will one, shut her up, two make her think she is smarter than you so down the road she can find out in her infinite smartness when her life crashes and burns that she is actually fucking stupid (that is how they seem to learn), and three, so she may have pity on you and give you some head so you will stop talking "stupid".
Silence is another game we play. If we talk too much, we give up too much information about ourselves, thus making us more vulnerable to becoming victims of their games. Likewise talking tends to invoke more talking. Good communication is essential to every working relationship, but you have to know how to communicate with a "crazy" person. Trying to communicate directly will only make you just as crazy. Hence men have learned to not be drawn into the "craziness" by not overly conversing. Communication does not involve you (the man) talking. It involves you listening and interpreting. You have to translate what she is saying into "reality". So the process for men is, listen, then de-code the message, then speak...ONLY IF NECESSARY! Most times a grunt and a nod in some positive or negative manner is all that is needed. To help you further understand this concept you have to pay attention to how women hear and think. First and foremost, they have translators in their brains like the ear piece of a UN ambassador. These translators encode everything that you say into exactly what they want (or don't want) to hear. It has absolutely nothing to do with what you are actually telling them. Men tend to speak directly, what we say is what we mean. Let’s call this language "reality". Women take what you say and translate it into the language the understand, lets call it "crazy". For instance if you say something like, "We should join a gym", she did not hear what you said. She did not hear you say "I think I want to join this gym so I can work out, and get in a little better shape, and keep my health up, and...so on...so on...all the positive reasons for joining a gym. What her translators told her was "HE THINKS I AM FAT". In this instance one of three things will happen, she will instantly lash out at you, catch you off guard and have you following behind her saying "what did I say?" (be scared), or she will begin to ask questions to probe what she thinks you are saying, (not what actually came out of you mouth), thus attempting to draw you into further conversation and eventually snaring you into saying something that validates what the translator in her mind told her "meant" (be very scared). The last approach she may take is the silent attitude(the attitude may not be immediately noticed). She will sit there and stew in her translated juices. She will grow increasingly upset or hurt. She will begin to show signs of serious displeasure, only to cause you to make the fatal mistake......"what's wrong with you?" (MORTAL KOMBAT FATALITY). She will not answer your question. She will tell you "nothing" is wrong, because, of course, you are supposed to know. Now she has you scouring over the course of the conversation looking for what when wrong, looking for the flaw, trying to figure out what you said wrong, then you think over the course of the day, then the week, the month, and pretty soon, you are as "crazy" as she is. She won. And when she finally figures out that she was just being stupid and that you really meant you just wanted to go to the gym, you are so crazy and enraged that your mind can't put together a comprehensible sentence (environ-mental meltdown). In a relationship, the men's part of communication means, pay attention to the road, be prepared for unstable, even hazardous road conditions. Men, with practice, can think "crazy" without becoming crazy. It is little more than mental karate - defense against the dark arts of "CRAAAZZZYYYY" (we must teach the youth). So one of our best defenses is SILENCE. It is truly Golden.
So in conclusion women play their games, and we play ours. Who ever wins depends on the ultimate objective and who's the better player. In healthy relationships, the objective is for everyone to win. (Understand-Negotiate-Compromise!)