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BOO-FREAKING-HOO. GET OVER IT.
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Dating advice for chicks:
Yeah, we know you really loved him. Yes, we know you had something “special”. Yes, we know he told you he loved you. Yes, we know no one else had even been as happy together as you two. Blah, blah, blah.
But if he really loved you, you wouldn't be at this site, would you? No. You'd be making the two-backed beast and annoying the downstairs neighbors.
So, as painful as it is to admit, he didn't love you. It sucks, sure, but don't take it personally. Why not? Because all it means is that they weren't right for you. Bummer, huh? Well, deal with it.
Guess what? He is one of 6 billion homo sapiens on this planet. So even if the love of your life was one in a million, there are still 6,000 people EXACTLY like them. Frankly, he isn't all that special.
What you have to remember is that most of the time, people are looking for something different, not better. That's why even beautiful people get cheated on. Just look at [insert latest shocking celebrity breakup here].
“No matter how attractive someone is, there's always somebody who's sick and tired of putting up with their shit.” -- Unknown Genius
Love is a combination of traits (personality, temperament, education, sense of humor, looks, etc.). And most people are looking for someone who has the right combination for them (and you should be looking for that, too.)
So it's not a case of finding someone that's BETTER than you--as if you are a worthless piece of scum—but just different than you. Maybe you're too intense for them. Or too funny. Or not docile enough. Or too nice. Or maybe they're using some arbitrary bullshit thing like your teeth aren't white enough. Hey, it happens.
People are idiots. Even people you love. (Look at your parents.)
they are a narcissist
or a player
or a sociopath
or a bigamist
or a sex addict
or an internet/romance addict
or a con man
pick & mix!
i love this site. all this jaded honesty makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
Hahaha... that was the best thing I've read all week!
If we are supposed to be falling in love with people different than us then how come earlier your definition of love was about 'updating'and falling in love with someone because we think they ARE better than us so we constantly overestimate them.
In this article you say not to look for something better because then we would all be worthless pieces of scum, just look for someone who is different. I think true love is when you compliment one another.
Am I desperate for even looking for relationship advice in the first place. Should I be seeking help from a psychiatric professional? Don't answer that anyone because I know the answer. Yes. I already do.
This article isn't about who YOU should be looking for. It's about why you were dumped. That HE isn't looking for someone "better", but HE is looking for someone who is different than YOU. You should look for someone with all the right mixes of qualities, as the article says, and that could include someone who is better than you. Or not. Whatever. In any case, the article does not contradict anything in the way that you thought it did. I hope this helps.
That was something that i needed to hear thank you. This is the first thing that i have read.......i will look more into it.....to find more....smile
For the last 2 years I have been getting over my ex. Yes, it took two years. . and the whole time I was looking for love or even like. I've gone from dating, to sleeping around, to actually liking someone and wanting to seee if it could pan out into something real.
ALL BAD IDEAS
If you are under 30, fuck it, under 40; then you should really just be loving yourself. Date yourself and don't sleep with one person to much now matter how great it is.
Enough of trying to find "the one" or even "the one that could atleast make you a little bit happier than you are right now". make yourself happy. buy a vibrator. work out. Perfect the Art (of whatever you want).
and when your looking for something to do... take your vibrator to the movies with you, hey.
The reason why people take so long getting over someone is they mind-f&#k themeselves into thinking they want that person. Usually it comes down to the dreaded "relationship routine" or the fear of loosing someone makes you keep a person that is crap.
Who gives a shit if he dumped you you'll soon realize that he turns out to be a prick that just used you . Get the fuck over it. Don't buy a vibrator get a hooker or go to a strip joint
thank you for posting this kind of stress reliever. it's been two months and i still haven't got over with my ex. reading this made me feel good. THANKS A LOT.
Guys are all fuckin' retards, they don't realize that there's actually someone who loves them unconditionally and its not their mom so they're afraid of commitment bottom line and they don't know how to appreciate the attention that we're willing to give them, so the closer you get to them the stupider they get, all you gotta do is play their stupid little games, all that passion you got for them turn it into pride
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