DO YOU SHARE COMMON GOALS WITH YOUR DATE?

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Another important attribute to look for in a chick is shared, common goals (beyond not being single, we mean). This may seem like basic stuff, but for many long-term couples, goals are a serious point of conflict. Both of you need to want the same things out of life; it sounds easy, but then so does juggling chain-saws.

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People carry lots of childhood expectations into marriage. You probably think marriage will be one, endless fuck-fest, but she probably thinks marriage is more about cuddling/sharing, which means you're screwed (only metaphorically, sorry). Different goals and expectations lead to friction. And marital friction leads to sleeping on the couch and starting over as the “creepy old, divorced guy.” Find this stuff out in advance because it only gets worse later on.

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When it comes to life-goals, “close enough” doesn't count. Be certain. Don't assume when she says she “like kids” that she “wants to have them burst forth from her uterus.” There's a big difference between thinking kids are cute, and wanting one bad enough to spend 48-hours screaming in labor pumping it out.

If you want to travel a lot but she wants to stay home and raise a family, hey, you have problems. Want to live on love while she wants to live on caviar? Want a hip downtown loft while she wants a charming Tudor in the country? Crave a Porsche Turbo Carrera while she needs a Dodge Caravan? Incompatible goals spell trouble with a capital-T, and that stands for “Therapy bills” (really big ones).

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To make matters worse, a woman's goals can change over time. What women want when they're twenty is much different from what they want when they're thirty, forty and beyond. Just because you got an answer you liked when you first met her doesn't guarantee she'll feel the same way after her furniture is moved in. Take the extra time to find out how women really feel about important goals. Remember, it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind, so a woman's promise probably isn't worth the paper your divorce settlement will be printed on.