WHAT YOU SHOULD LOOK FOR IN A DATE

Locking up the right woman could be the most important decision of your life. More important than which college to drop out of, which dead-end career path to take, or where to buy your first house. To be honest, no other decision has the ability to come back and bite you on the ass harder, longer, or cost you more money and grief than making the wrong choice.

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Picking the wrong mate will torture you long after that money-pit you call a house has been condemned for infestation. So the decision bears some serious thought.

It's fucking critical to do your research upfront and not be bullied into buying the first model you see that lets you drive her around the block a few times.

So how do you choose a woman to spend your life with? Exactly as you would choose any computer, stereo equipment or new car. You look around and see what's out there, take a few of the better ones out for a test drive, stop on the side of the road and have sex with it, then pay cash the one you like best. (Yep, like everyone does before buying a new car.)

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Make no mistake, you are shopping and you should treat it that way—objectively comparing features and benefits; pros and cons. Just remember, it's a seller's market. And quality women—if you can find one—don't come cheap. But that doesn't mean you should panic and jump at anything—wait until you meet a fucking great one. Because the return policy on women sucks. The restocking fee alone is a bitch.

Before you can determine what you want in a woman, you have to be honest with yourself, about yourself. Who is the real you? What are your real wants in a woman? Think about why you think you want, or don't want, these traits. Do you want the traits because TV says you should? Or your parents? Or those voices in your head? The traits other people tell you to want in a woman aren't always the ones you'll like best.

Seriously think about what you want from a woman; and be realistic (give up that 'daily blowjob' fantasy right now). There are many different types of chicks on this planet. And yet Society inadvertently makes guys go after the same basic type of woman. One who embodies the same unrealistic “ideal”—a Malibu Barbie look-alike who cooks like Rachel Ray and screws like Paris Hilton.

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These dream-bitches just don't exist; and it's unreasonable for you to expect to find one of these women (as it is for Society to expect a woman to be one of them). Don't believe all that centerfold model fantasy bullshit, women aren't really like that, unfortunately. C'mon, do you seriously expect a woman to be some caricature of your ideal woman? Do you even really want that? Hey, maybe you do (prostitutes and strippers need love, too).

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The kind of woman Society thinks you should have is “the girl next door.” Society thinks no man could ever be happy with a bimbo. But, maybe you're not the “guy next door” type. Society doesn't know you. They don't know what you want. Only you do. So don't let their expectations make you go after girls that won't make you happy. Use your own criteria. You'll be happier (and you won't have to work as hard, either, because there's less competition for girls who don't live “next door”). Remember, Society's batting average with relationships is a shitty 0.600 among American adults, so when it comes to choosing a mate, don't take Society's word for shit.

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Instead, look at the relationships you already have with women that are working. Consider how you get along with your female friends, and decide which of their traits you like and which ones you don't. We're not talking physical qualities like height, hair color or cup-size. We're talking the less tangible stuff like temperament, intelligence, attitude, etc. You have to find the ideal woman for you, not for anyone else. In effect, you're trying to “Frankenstein” the perfect combination of traits together to create the right mate.

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You need to prioritize for your own tastes.If it helps, make a list of qualities you like in women and what qualities you don't. Here's an example list:

• 1.) Female.
• 2.) Above the age of consent.
• 3.) Breathing & conscious.

With this list, you should have no problem finding a woman who qualifies. But finding a compatible long-term mate takes a longer, more detailed list. So wrack your brain to come up with traits you love and ones you hate. As you compile the list, don't forget to consider the dual nature of all personality traits. The same trait can be positive or negative depending on how you look at it.

Do you like a passionate woman who will yell at you all the time? Or do you like a woman who's agreeable, but boring? Want a girl who's affectionate or reserved? Emotional or intellectual? Dominant or submissive? Serious or fun-loving? Shy or outgoing? Spontaneous or methodical? Blunt or delicate? Confident or timid? Liberal or conservative? Practical or frivolous? Needy or self-reliant? Orderly or haphazard?

See where this is going? Traits, like all things in life, are neither strictly good or strictly bad. For every good aspect of a trait, there is an equal and opposite bad aspect. Every trait has its dark side, so you gotta shop around. Really decide what you want, and more important, what you can put up with over the years. Consider these, for instance:

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• POSITIVE: She's passionate.
• NEGATIVE: Will scream at you (until the cops arrive).
• POSITIVE: She's classy.
• NEGATIVE: Won't give you head without getting jewelry first.
• POSITIVE: She's smart.
• NEGATIVE: Knows she can do better (and is looking).
• POSITIVE: She's ambitious.
• NEGATIVE: How do you think she keeps getting promoted?
• POSITIVE: Likes hot sex.
• NEGATIVE: Likes hot sex with other guys, too.
• POSITIVE: She's neat & tidy.
• NEGATIVE: Will go ape-shit if you aren't.
• POSITIVE: She parties.
• NEGATIVE: Will eventually wreck your car and/or need bail money.
• POSITIVE: She's spontaneous.
• NEGATIVE: Won't be there when you get home one day.

Using your list, you can ask new girls relevant questions to better gauge her personality so you know whether she's long-term material earlier rather than later when you're the prime murder suspect.