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So there you have it—everything we know about relationships in stark, cold black and white. It's not perfect. Our advice isn't gonna solve all your problems. Your situation will probably be different. And your mileage may vary. But for the most part, you can now go into relationships with more knowledge than your Dad had when he settled for your mom, so you've got a head start right there.
We hope we've provided the kind of info the other books on relationships never talk about. We hope this info has debunked many of the myths about human coupling. Myths are no basis for a successful long-term relationship. Only truth is. And, while we're not saying that this is the only truth, it's a lot closer than most of the shit people have shoveled into your head to this point.
To sum up: Don't marry the first woman who lets you screw her, and don't believe every word out of her mouth no matter how sincerely she says it. Most chicks are fucked. End of story. There's nothing you can do about it, so get used to it (they think guys are fucked, too). Learn to deal.
Women are trouble, but they have their good points, like letting you sleep with them (and there aren't many bigger favors that a girl can do). If you find a good one, protect her from all the assholes out there, but don't get some crazy idea that “she completes you” or else you need to start wearing dresses. It's the law.
Appreciate a good woman, but treat her like an equal, not a fantasy. Or a goddess. Treat her as you want her to treat you. If she's special, let her know it. If she doesn't reciprocate, dump her back in the dating pool. Then go out and get the kind of woman you really want (and, frankly, don't deserve). Of course, what else are you gonna do? Fuck guys? Nice menu, huh? Good luck.
IS SHE TOO MUCH WORK?
Emotional Vampires :
Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry.How do you know you're settling? For one thing, you're working too damn hard to keep your girl happy. You shouldn't have to completely change your personality, and how you act, for anyone. You need total, non-judgmental acceptance from the girl. Without it, you're settling for a future Bitch of the Century candidate.
Yet it's understandable to think you are not settling. Thanks to “hope.” Again, Hollywood's “happy ending” delusion makes people think a bad relationship will eventually get better-all they have to do is work at it. The reality is; bad relationships just get worse.
Breaking Free :
A Recovery Handbook for Facing Codependence.In a non-settling relationship, the only “work” you should ever have to do is stuff you'd expect from a roommate. Making the same small compromises any decent person would make living in the same house with another person, picking up after yourself, helping keep the place clean, trading off chores, helping them hide from bill collectors.
When happy couples say you have to “work” at a relationship, they're sorta being misleading. After all, you don't know what constitutes their idea of “work”. How much “work” should saving a relationship take? How much is too much? Or not enough? It's all relative to your past relationships. One person's idea of a lot of work may be another's version of a walk in the park. It all depends on what you're used to.
I'm Not in the Mood:
What Every Woman Should Know About Improving Her Libido.Every relationship involves conflict that requires some effort to get through. But, you need a partner; someone who's on your side regardless; someone to commiserate with, who understands, cares and, more important, will stand by you through the trial believing you really didn't kill the hooker they found in your car trunk.
But, if you find yourself constantly biting your lip to avoid disagreements; or find yourself back-peddling and apologizing a lot; or have to beg to get sex; or can't tell her how you really feel; or feel like you're always walking on glass, then you should just keep on walking out the door. You two are not compatible, and you should end a relationship. “Working at it” won't make either one of you happy for long. Sooner or later, one of you will get tired of it all, and the serious fighting will start.
ARE YOU JUST FUCK-BUDDIES?
How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure:
Techniques Women Want Men to Know.DOES SHE ANNOY YOU?
I Hate You, Don't Leave Me :
Understanding fear of abandonment; mood swings, self-destructiveness and violent outbursts.Another question to ask yourself is, Does she annoy you? Because people don't change. And women, also being people, don't change either. Ultimately, women will be who they are. They'll act according to their nature, and there's nothing you can do about it. Oh, you can force them to change through coercion and/or emotional blackmail, but given half a chance—or half a six pack—they'll revert right back to the way they were; maybe worse. That's why when a woman has a troubling trait that you can't, or just won't, deal with you've got to dump her ass. Right. Fucking. Now.
Why Is It Always About You?
Saving Yourself from the Narcissists in Your Life.Don't think you can change her, or that, if she loved you she would change, because she can't, and won't. People will do many things for love, but changing their basic nature or personality isn't one of them. One day, she'll be old and gross-looking (like you) and all you'll have left is her personality; so you'd better like it. A lot. It's gonna be around for a while.
Find girls to fuck who live near you.
Instead of trying to change her, try changing the one thing you can change. Your attitude about the problem. Maybe what's annoying you isn't that bad. Is it really THAT gross the way she gargles? Or picks her nose? Or farts all the time? Or masturbates with a baseball bat while you're at work? If it is, do her the huge favor of not insisting that she spend her life with such an uptight pain in the ass as you.
Of course, the issue with your significant other may just point out some issues that you yourself need to resolve. Your reason for despising this specific trait could stem from being traumatized or scarred somehow—by a controlling or insane parent—in which case you should seek counseling to deal with it. No matter the problem—if you think it's insurmountable—it probably is. Don't doom her to a life of nagging and criticizing you until you lose it and saw her in half. Let her go. Break it off.
Nobody's perfect (you're certainly not). Don't expect her to be. But, some women are more nearly perfect for you than others. And you're not doing anyone a favor by settling for one that's just okay.
DO YOU EVEN LOVE HER?
The One:
A Realistic Guide To Choosing Your Soul MateFirst, do you actually love her? Don't confuse liking someone with being in love. There are lots of reasons to like a girl—well enough to fuck her, at least—but that doesn't mean you're in love with her, regardless of what your dick is telling you (it tends to lie in these situations, you know).
Can Love Last?:
The Fate of Romance over TimeConversely, don't confuse her loving you with her being in love with you—they're different, too. Being “in love” implies a relationship of some kind; reciprocal, in that not only do you love someone, but that someone loves you back every bit as much. You both need to feel lucky to be with the other—if you don't, it's only a matter of time before you'll both start fielding other offers.
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If you can't tell how you feel about her, ask yourself how you feel when you're around her (besides hornier than an African White rhino). Does being around her make you feel more like who you really are, or do you feel the need to be someone else around her (i.e. someone she likes)? Do you respect her or just tolerate her because you can't find someone else to fuck who's better looking? Do you feel like she's a top priority, or do you forget she exists when she leaves the room?
The Art of Courtly Love
Popularized by 12th century troubadours in FranceFinally, if you're wondering whether she's the right kind of girl for you, then she probably isn't. Why? Because you're not sure; if you have to ask, she isn't. The handy thing about really being in love is that you never doubt that you're in love. When you love a chick, you actually do “know it,” as old people say. You won't have to wonder; it's obvious. Painfully obvious, to everyone around you, if not to you. Guys in love often do stupid, embarrassing things. Because they don't care about being cool. They only care about being around their girl. Sounds fucking romantic, doesn't it? Well, it is (don't worry, it won't last). If you don't have that kind of confidence in your feelings, then you don't have shit. Well, that's not entirely true; you've got a fuck-buddy. (She just doesn't know it yet.)
