I'm not ready for a relationship

[color=red]I was see an girl for fucking ages , Stupid amounts of texts and calls.

sleeping with her, you would have thought she was interested.

Then i get the , I'm not ready for a relationship bullshit. Well she was all fucking ready to fuck me, and up, mentally, and then she has the audastity to text me to say "am i ok" Well what does she think i'm going to say, "yeh i fuckin superb" And now i'm getting spam e-mails from her does she think i really want to fucking read them. and more texts. I also got a text "what shall we do." I.e about us, And then after a nite of sorting it out i got the same shit. I'M NOT READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP. What the fuck have you got a do, They are as this site says fucked up. [/color][size=18][/size]

It is things like this that make Cupid's work on an Official Translator between men and women seem less crazy that it sounds.

There are any number of explanations for the comment, "I'm not ready for a relationship." Fear of commitment is a big one, and in some cases, it is simply fear of commitment to YOU. After spending a little bit of time with you, they decide that there is something about you that sets off little warning bells in their heads, and they use those patented lines that are meant to send the message without hurting you:

"I think we're better as friends."

"I'm not ready for a relationship at this point."

"It's just not something I can talk about, but this has nothing to do with you."

Face it fellas, you just don't rate. And sex is certainly not proof that a woman cares, so get that out of your head. Sometimes women want sex in the same way that men are notorious for, [i]sans commitment[/i], but they don't want to develop an emotional attachment. One of women's biggest fantasies/sexual desires, according to a past issue of Cosmo (hey, it was lying around, I was bored, and jabbing toothpicks into my eyes had ceased being fun), was to have commitment free sex with some person who they don't know and never meet again.

And lets face it...if a woman is willing to have sex with you, then you have something going for you...you're probably not hideously deformed (although some women do go for that) and you probably have all the right working parts...she used you for sex, so get over it, knowing that someone else who does want a more substantial relationship is out there.

CA

This is just a case of bitches being bitches.

some women are really simply not ready. this is why knowing when to make your move is a fine art. if you move in on someone who is vulnerable or bruised from a RECENT bad relationship -- well, then be prepared for hearing sentiments of fear and caution.

then, of course, there is the "sugar coating" angle, and unfortunately, when the "not ready for a relationship" phrase gets overused as a made-up excuse, it loses it's meaning for those who really mean it.

but basically, someone who tells you they are "not ready," no matter what their motivation for it, is basically saying: "listen, it's fun to be with you but don't get too attached."

if that's not something you're interested in continuing, then don't. you have some power in this relationship too. as men love to fantasize about their no muss break-ups with women, i am not ashamed to offer this as advice:

don't bitch -- just go.

sorry if it seems harsh -- but planning revenge on someone who is basically telling you ahead of time where she stands is well, needless. your time is better spent meeting someone else.

P.S. The "I'm not ready for a relationship, can't we just have fun?" line has been used on women for years. In fact, the woman using it on you has probably had it done to her. So I guess now it's time for everyone to wear the same shoes. (Gee, I hope they're stylish yet comfortable!)

I guess a new code phrase will have to be implemented then, eh? How about, "The Rooster spanks the Monkey at midnight, repeat, the Rooster spanks the Monkey at midnight."

Personally, I think it has some panache.

CA

i don't need a rooster to spank my monkey, i can do it just fine myself.

Ah, but you missed the purpose...see, if you get turned down because they aren't interested, then you're the rooster spanking your monkey.

See...panache.

CA

well, in response to the whole "I'm not ready for a relationship" really meaning something mumbo jumbo: If she said this, could you not talk about it.

Usually if you talk about it, you can differentiate between who's lieing and who's telling the truth.

But still, that line is full of so much shit that it could double as a manure truck.