Never love the person who does not love you
Never love the person who does not love you, and try to grow fond of the person who loves you. In the first case you will be eternally unhappy, and in the second - you have a small chance to become happy
Brutally honest dating advice for the cynical, bitter and jaded.
sound advice. -decz
sound advice.
-decz
No, it just SOUNDS like advice.
Read it first
I did not say anything about finding love, try to understand what I wrote first before posting a comment.
And I really appreciate your site and work.
Lady Devil
I agree with Editor. Don't
I agree with Editor. Don't love someone who doesn't love you, but don't force yourself to love someone you simply don't. I agree with giving EVERYONE a chance, but not to the point of being with someone in fear of never being with anyone else.
in live
Hey,
I fell deeply in love with a woman that did not love me.
I will never make that fucking mistake again.
Donald
What I wrote is just my
What I wrote is just my personal opinion, and I told you to try, not to force yuorself. And it seems like you and editor rather chase after someone who doesn't care or love you, than will give someone who cares a chance. You both Male stereotype, when you will only be interested in a women when she doesn't care for you.
Good luck
Lady/Devil best of both worlds
Lady Devil, I'm a female and
Lady Devil,
I'm a female and I said I believe in giving everyone a chance, but as u well know, u don't really choose who you fall in love with. I have gotten my heart broken in the both serious relationships I've had and yet I can't bring myself to like or love those guys who would be "best" for me because something is missing- one can't avoid the emotional, intellectual and physical chemistry they feel for someone. If it's not there, I just can't be with someone. I know I would just be using them and end up hurting them. I know myself.
Yes, I agree but how many
Yes, I agree but how many times I said that I did not write force. And trust me you already been brokenhearted twice, so I am guessing you do not mind it again.I am over here also because I have been betrayed, used, and etc.
Like most of the woman l am guessing you like suffering, drama, you also like to feel used, like most other women by man who do not care. Most of woman like to stay with bad boy, macho, or expect the same return if they do something for a man. We do something because we want it, man do not ask us most of the time. Than why later we start arguing with them, that we did that for you and you suppose to do the same for us. Why, we only did it because we want to.
When did we became so not feminine, that when a man pays for our dinner we start arguing that he is not letting us be independent. I am sorry my female friend, but he will fuck you either he likes you or not, it's just mans nature. That why we woman are different because most every time we sleep with someone we think it's something, and most of the time it is not.
We create that person by ourself, maybe he is not that intellectual, emotional stable, attractive.
Man and Woman are completely different and I truly belief that most of the times that thrill that thunderstorm you get when you meet the person very often fades away quickly. I have a degree in child behavioral psychology. Let me tell you chemistry will fade, sex will not be the same as years pass by, you will get use to looks, you will meet people who are more funnier and intellectual, who are more emotionally stable. Love is not a state of heart, not a state of mind, it's the condition of soul
And if you had less free time, had kids, trust me you would not be able to think about all that nonsense.
And I would rather sleep with the man who loves me rather than with one who uses me. And if someone is using you just get out, it does not get any better, period.
Remember that dating if it's serious or not is just dating, only marriage is a commitment.
And if a man is not physically, emotionally and financially stable,(trust me fiances is a huge part, it's just a reality but it is) it does not matter how much chemistry you have you will run for you life sooner or later
Lady/Devil best of both worlds
Lady Devil, I agree with you
Lady Devil,
I agree with you in some points, but not in others. I don't like being used, and I don't like macho-types. That's why I fell for my two last boyfriends, but they turned out to be jerks anyways- not really jerks, one was a bit emotionally unstable, and the other was just immature. I don't go around dating or sleeping around because I just can't do that with someone I don't like or love, and I find it hard to find someone who will attract me enough. I don't like drama and I never played passive-aggressive or other typical female games. The guys really have nothing to complain about, and they would gladly tell u that. I just need someone more mature and sure of who they are and what they want. I tend to have a lot of faith in people, and though I end up disappointed, I know there are good people out there.
I too have a degree in psychology and know chemistry fades away, but that's not all I was referring to. Emotional and intellectual connections are something else. U should read National Geographics February issue, which had an article about love, dopamine and oxitocine. Very interesting.
I surely don't want to be with someone who uses me, but I don't want to use anyone either. I'm not saying how anyone else should live their life, I just know that I cannot be with someone if I don't feel that special something. I just can't, so if I have to wait another few years or forever, so be it.
I want to fulfill myself and as i said before, find someone who will love me in the way I love. I have come to the conclusion their is no one correct love or definition of love- everyone loves in a different way which isn't better or worse, u just have to find someone who shares YOUR vision.
Thanks for your words though, perhaps I am an idealist and need a few more broken hearts to kill my faith
Hello Anonymous girl,Thanks
Hello Anonymous girl,
Thanks a lot for responding. I will try to get the February issue from the library, since it's not in the stores anymore.
Idealistic is a very good thing, but being realistic is good too:) and allowing yourself to think with your head will never hurt.
And you wont get burned again, just try to respect yourself first. And before you will get to you next relationship make sure you, first of all you know what you want, and do not be afraid to express it as straight as possible. No hidden words or feelings, just be yourself, be as you are. At least if something will not work out it will happen right away.
Look at me I am teaching someone, or rather giving advise:)
Idealist is an excellent thing, never compromise or give up you ideals. There are such a small amount of both, man and women left in this world with some ideals, mostly a lot of words in this world, less and less actions. And have you notice that everyone you practically met is looking for the same thing you are, but than you get to know them and ..............
Never thought I will get set sentimental, has always been tough, ambitious and I know exactly what I want, I still am
Good Luck too you all:)
PS I have no idea if you read Bulgakov's Master and Margarita, read it you will enjoy it
Lady/Devil best of both worlds
Idealist - the person who
Idealist - the person who allows to feed himself with beautiful words, even if they are wrapped up in the dirtiest lies
Thanks for your words Lady
Thanks for your words Lady Devil. I'm getting back on my feet and reconnecting with myself. One sure learns from their mistakes...
Good luck to you, take care, "anonymous girl"
Great advice honey, maybe
Great advice honey, maybe some American man and women will finally take it into consideration, and stop living in imagenary world which created for us by TV, self discovery books, and other loosers and will start think for themselfes for a change
marry someone that does not love you
Hei, Idealist Girl...
I am happy I have found your messages.
I think, I am exactly as you are, waiting for life to offer me the true love; I love him and he loves me back. Never happened; there were all the possible combinations but not this one.
I have lost 10 years of my life thinking of a lost cause. I just did not realized that. And now even if that lost cause is coming back, with all the memories I have...
Someone tell me, should I marry someone that does not love me but he just realized that I am the one most suitable for his life?
:(
well i like this guy... alot
well alot of people like me and for some reason i have such strong feelings for this one guy. I can do so much better than him too but i am just in love with him. he will fool around and like touch me and stuff cuddle me but he dont want to be with me and it hurts :(
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