she doesnt love me anymore. She never loved me.

It was really devastating for me and i miss her. She was a great friend and i still do love her, but i just have to let her go sadly because she wont talk to me anymore :-(

that sounds terrible -- i am so sorry.

just writing to let you know that it takes a lot for someone to trust you with a problem that serious. the fact that she trusted you enough to tell you that she took the test and might have a scary diagnosis shows that she truly considers you a friend. try to take comfort in that.

as an outsider, i can tell you that it's not surprising that someone dealing with a huge negative life change would try cut ties. however, it's surprising and painful when you are the one being cut off. know that she probably needs to deal with this on her own -- it's not about you -- even though you are being hurt by what is happening. i know that offers little comfort, but it is true. it seems really unfair -- but she's probably scared shitless right now -- and just trying to figure out the best steps to take from here.

when someone gets a negative health diagnosis, they go through many stages of mourning (similar to those of a break-up, so you may be able to relate on some level). denial, anger/frustration, bargaining and depression, coupled with fear and GUILT. however, the person she is mourning is her own self, or her own identity, because from now on everything could be different. imagine how terrifying that must feel. and on top of that, her thought process could be affected by the Schizophrenia, which is probably very confusing to her.

i know you probably want to reach out to her and help her, or try to understand her better -- but if she needs to deal with this on her own right now, there's not a lot you can do, except try to confirm somehow (through a trusted friend or family member) that she is getting professional help.

i am so sorry -- it is very hard to watch someone you love exist in pain and isolation. try to be patient with yourself and the situation. this truly sounds like a bad situation ending the relationship, so try not to internalize it too much.

good luck to you and i hope your heart will heal soon.

Bitches don't know what they want....

Changeling, sometimes people go into a relationship with a fallow field and waiting for love to emerge from the earth and blossom into fullness. Sometimes it doesn't happen for them, despite it happening for you.

You'll have to excuse Mike's bitterness...and don't let it affect you. Women know what they want, and what they want isn't always what they see, but it doesn't stop them from looking, just like it shouldn't stop you. There are times in your life when you will look and think you see love, but it's just a mirage, and when you get to a certain point, you recognize if for that and it's time to part company with the person you've made the journey with.

Better that she do it now than later. And hopefully you can still be friends.

CA

It seems like you are trying to blaming her breaking up with you because she is possibly schizophrenic.....by a "personality test"....?? what did she take this test online? really? and you are going to just trust some random made up shit online? she broke up with you because she doesnt want to be with you....you arent compatible....at least she's trying to be nice about it....dont be a douche....just realize that it is probably better this way and move the fuck on!! Have a nice day :)