Where Honesty Got Me - Part 1 of 3

I've been lurkin' around here for a few weeks now, and I guess i'd feel a bit alright postin' these here. This is the first of 3 screwed up things that have happened to me over the past few years being that i'm an honest, nice, fun loving, wild, and spontaneous guy.

The first of these subjects, is a total idiot, and a bit of a mental case. You see, I met her in my final year of high school, when I was dealing with a problem much bigger than this, which will be the 3rd one I post about but, putting that to the side...She was cool with me, she always greeted me with a hug, knowing what I was going through, telling me not to give up, and hung out with me.
It was cool to chill with a girl that knew how to play some videogames on a competitive level, and was into my artwork, poetry, and writing.

Alright, fast forward almost a year ahead.
I'm through the bullshit I had to go through, i've got a nice job at ETS which was paying a FUCKTON of cash for clerical work, and I was feelin' good. Now, I kept in contact with this girl regularly, and it was one day, I e-mailed her, and told her "Hey, I like you, and i'd like to get to know you a little better." and she replied "I do like you too, and i'd love to know you a bit better too.", so the weekends hit, I don't have a car, and her's is broken. So, my best friend, and me, go to get her, and her friend. So, it wasn't exactly a double date, because her friend was a very loose girl, and although normally we'd look down on the type of thing, we gave her a lot of respect because, she didn't get around like that, because she didn't like thugs or jackasses, and she was honest about what she does.

So, 3 weekends down the line, me and her got to the "boyfriend/girlfriend" stage, we all regularly went out to shoot pool, and go bowling. Now, eventually, she suggested the movies, which she got us in free, since some of her family members worked there. Now, she always wanted to see children's movies, and horror movies...which was okay by me honestly, because hey...it was free, and I ain't see whatever it is yet. So, during this time, some dude came into play, that started calling her regularly, now being that everyone deserves their space and what not, I didn't look down on this, because i've fucktons of female friends I call and see how they're doing...

Well, this motherfucker is her ex, he dipped off on her 2 years prior to me and her meeting each other, so this was 4 years she hasn't seen him, heard from him, or anything, as he dipped off with some other chick on her...which was fucked up. So, eventually, me and her were out one night at the movies, I believe we went to Flushed Away (silly movie XD), and she told me "My ex asked me out to breakfast, should I go?". I told her "Hey, it's just breakfast, go on ahead." Now, you're probably expecting me to tell you "I CAUGHT EM' AT HER HOUSE FUCKING." wrong...

They actually had breakfast, and went thier seperate ways...or so I thought theoretically.
I called her to see how things went, and she told me he made her cry, because he proposed to her at breakfast. Now, I asked her "wow, this dude is full of jokes ain't he?" and she said "Well, he had a ring...and I took it."

So, I the weekend came up, when we saw each other, and I asked her "I stepped into your life, and i've been good to you, we had a lot in common, and we had fun together, I always took you out to have a wild time, and go all over...so, what's wrong with me, compared to him after he stepped out your life, literally cheating on you, and then just stepping back in?"
The only thing she could say is "I missed him..."

We broke up that day, I was furious for weeks.
About a month later, I had got a new job at CompUSA, and actually started talking to a friend of mine who I knew for a few years, that also led to a screwed up situation, which is actually going to be the 2nd screwed up story I post.

Ok, now to the present...
I now work at Circuit City, since my CompUSA closed down, I'm in the process of getting a ridiculously large 3 bedroom apartment with my two best friends, so we can all have the freedom we wanted. She gets wind of this.

She's calling me, telling me how much she misses me, how much she loves me, how much she wants to hear my voice, how much she wants me in her, and how much she wants to go and do with life with me, and how shes still amazed by the art I posted on expo a month before.

I promptly cursed her out.
You see, her loose friend, she gave me a call a few days ahead of time, telling me that she was trying to use me, so she can have somewhere to stay now and then, and some money to spend, while pretending to be my boyfriend, while she goes back every few days to fuck the other guy.

And people still ask me "Why are you so bitter?"
So, was I right in what I did, or should I have handled it in a different light?

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There is no "right" or "wrong" way to go...

Instead, you should wonder about your ex: why would she knowingly go back to a cheating, backstabbing and unstable guy? Is it because she has abandonment issues? Because she is the kind of person that feels attracted to a "pseudo-bad-boy" kinda guy?

She seems to be pretty impulsive, taking important decisions based on temporary feelings. Either there something else than "i missed him/you" or she's prone to irrational impulsive behaviour. In both cases she doesn't sound like a very sentimentally mature person if you ask me. Is that really what you want as a partner, someone that acts on context rather than content?

Oh hell no, I'm glad she's

Oh hell no, I'm glad she's gone.
I'm lookin' for awesome, not perfect, just someone awesome...but awesome women are very rare.

You were absolutely right..

Either that chick has issues or she's a complete user; ether way, she's poison. Her friend the "loose" chick was more of a friend to you than you realize. She probably has seen her friend run this kind of game too many times to count and really hates this kind of dishonesty (remember, she's up front about what she does, rather, WHO she does) so she did you a solid by giving you a heads up about how this grimy slut is operating. You did the right thing by cussing her out and slamming the door. In retrospect, maybe you should have gotten some from her then cussed her out while kicking her out the door. Keep looking for that "awesome" one...eventually you'll get her. Good Luck

SHES A NYMPHO

shes a nymphomaniac because all this time she saw her ex. never you all this time she wished it was him instead of you. it wouldnt surprise me if he was the first guy in bed was him. she never truly got over him. but deliberately she had no right taking it out on you. she was still attracted to you in an odd way because you are everything you said plus a hardworker (you kept mentioning jobs). heck im a girl whose been cheated by four other girls excluding the ones that thought they were his official boyfriend wich adds to a total of six. yeah i felt torn broken and saddly he broke up with me after i financially helped him and more. i never missed him a day in my life i could never explain the hatred i feel for him. but if he ever proposed to me i would gladly say yes then pawn the ring. you sound way to nice to be treated like that. not many girls are nice these days. i only know one and thats me. sometimes the best ones for us are the one thats been next to you all along just never seemed to notice. good luck on finding the right one.

Is it true ?

One of the penalties for refusing to participate in politics is that you end up being governed by your inferiors.
Quotation of Plato

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