Boy, did I screw up this time.....

Well, this is certainly different than the usual "boy did I fuck up - slept with someone besides my husband" dilemma. Generally there is some inkling of regret, guilt, feeling really bad (whatever) because of what you've done behind your HUSBAND'S back, and there's really no mention of him here (except to acknowledge that he does indeed exist).

Let me see if I'm understanding this correctly: if conference boy had kept calling you and had been interested in more than a one-time romp, there would be no problem? And you want to know if you've "really messed up with this guy?". Given that these are the only issues you bring up, along with YOU feeling really stupid and used (me me me me me me) it's easy to draw the conclusion that you are one self-centered biatch.

You've told us nothing about your marriage, but since you didn't specifically state that you had an open relationship with your husband, we can only assume that fucking other people is outside of the general guidelines. Therefore, THAT is where you fucked up. Where is the concern for your husband's feelings... broken vows... all that stuff? Do you want a divorce? If so, work on that first, THEN go out and worry about whether someone calls you back after you sleep with them.

JEEZ, this is annoying me! If you'd have said "gee, I fucked someone else, and I feel just terrible about it" you may have gotten your shoulder to cry on. Everyone makes a mistake every now and then, and sleeping with someone else, one time, at an out of town conference, never to be seen or heard from or spoken of again... that could be forgiveable. But you seem to be worried only about your bruised ego. Whaaaa! Get over yourself!

After reading over this, I do feel a slight (albeit VERY slight) need to apologize for the harshness of my rant. But that's why you came to strangers, right? For the honesty? Hope you can take it.

Just wanted to say thanks. Thanks for reminding me why I'm not getting married. Why be committed to some skank like you when I could pimp skanks like you just like your guy friend did.

Get a freakin clue... He used you, you are a whore..he knew it, so now he's treating you like you deserve.

How could you even pretend to say that you're "happily married". If you were even remotely sorry I'd actually give you some good advice...

-decz

Yeah,

That was a bit of wake up call. Here I was expecting sympathy, and all I get is references to my skankiness.

In response to the first message. Yes, of course I feel horrible about what I did. More so than I wrote. It's just that for me to feel sorry/ regret, I'd have to face up to my actions first, and I guess I'm not at that point yet.

It's been horribly painful. When I use the term "fucked up", that describes how I feel about what I did, okay?

My husband's a wonderful guy, and that's why I feel stupid. Why would I cheat on someone so great with a complete dog?

Guess that's for me to figure out and for you to judge me about.

Shut the fuck up you stupid bitch, skank, hoe. You got exactly what you deserved. What goes around comes around. Happily married? Then why would you cheat. If this world didn't include hoes like you, this place would be much better. Go catch an STD you hoe.

Hello again. I posted the first guest reply above, but forgot my user name.

It's nice that you NOW say that you're feeling terrible about what you did, but let's go back to your original post: "now, he doesn't call... says he's always busy... doesn't want to get involved with a married woman... I feel so used... and I KEEP TRYING TO CALL..." (etc.) Too little too late, Whatthefk. This is obviously what was on your mind when you wrote, and the only thing you seem to feel bad about is being rejected. Face it, that's what happened. I still maintain that if this guy was still into you, calling you, what-e-verrrrr, you'd be peachy keen right now, and pondering the proper time to 'let him down easy'. (and probably even complaining to your girlfriends about 'this crazy stalker you met at a conference')

While I think the name-calling was a BIT harsh, I also think that you need to grow up a bit and either be married or not. And don't EVER tell your husband about this, if you choose option one. Not even under the guise of "complete honesty", because believe me, he does NOT want to know. Even if the guilt is burning an ulcer in your stomach (which I doubt it is) consider it your penance and shut up.

Nice post there although I disagree HEAVILY that she shouldn't tell her husband. Damn, are you women that much of bitches? Ughhhhhh. I think I'm gonna join Decz, as you two females have shown the shady side of bitches. I've lost all faith in women. :roll:

I just get tired of married people who fuck up, can't stand the guilt of it all, are just TORTURED BY IT (this obviously doesn't apply to Whatthefk, so it was probably inappropriately placed advice) so - in the interest of "complete honesty", even though they'll never do it again (blah, blah, blah) - tell their spouse just to make themselves feel better. The spouse is ultimately the one left to pick up the pieces, because rarely is this bombshell dropped with the mindset of "I'm scum and deserve what I get". No, it's followed by pleading of 'it'll never happen again... it was only a one-time thing... please forgive me... I want to stay in this marriage...' and all the usual stuff (generally lies). Now TWO people are feeling like shit, because of one person's lack of judgement.

If Whatthefk wants to tell her husband, she needs to ready to be thrown out on her ear (as she should be). Once she's got enough nerve to face that possible consequence, then by all means - tell him. But if she's just looking to clear her conscience and expecting forgiveness and for things to go on like they used to be... shut up about it and buy plenty of antacids. Let your husband be happy.

If I were the spouse, that's what I would want, anyway. (If a non-cheating spouse is out of the question, which I sometimes wonder about. This is why I'm not married, either!)

Cunt.

It's good that this guy didn't call you. Maybe he realized "hey, it's wrong to screw a married woman". I'm not doling out any sympathy (not that you're asking for it) because the entire situation is your fault. You are the married one who decided to pursue a relationship with someone other than your husband. Flirting with someone else=ok, fucking someone else=not ok. It's that simple. Fucking around on a boyfriend is bad enough, but on your husband? Maybe you missed the part of the ceremony where you swear that is the only penis you will ever touch again....

and the rates of successful marriages just keep on declining...

mike,decz...just because this woman decides to screw around doesn't mean all of us do. please don't go back to your man-whore ways or get discouraged because of one woman who decides infidelity is fun.

Hey Jenn, how you doing? I'm trying not to go to my man-whore status but it is really difficult. I disagree with you though on flirting with someone is ok, ESPECIALLY if you're married. You just don't put yourself in those situations. Would you want your husband to be flirting? Cheating can be solved if you don't put yourself in that situation.

Hey Jenn. No need to worry. I'm not going to be a man-whore again..unless, the current gf decideds to fuck me over... I simply have very very strong doubts about marriage in todays world.

-decz

I see your point mike. I was just thinking in terms of..."well, flirting is better than fucking...", but I guess if that ends up leading to the romp in the hay then it's just as bad.

I do have serious doubts about the state of marriage today too. Considering half of all marriages end in divorce now, the odds don't look good. At this point i'm perfectly ok just dating my bf and not having to fill out a bunch of paperwork to say "i love you,no really--i do".

This is total BULL. I have no sympathy for you what-so-ever. You need to tell your husband so that HE CAN DECIDE WHETHER OR NOT TO LEAVE YOUR ARSE.

Or you need to leave him as you know you are dishonest skank. I have already learned that women and men both fuck up, but from my end women seem to do alot more of the fucking up. You can meet the sweetest girl and she can literally be leading a second life. It can be the same from a girls point of view, but I am a guy and you are a bitch.

Seriously, think about your frickin Husband. Is it fair to him to lead a life thinking hes got this faithful wife when hes got a skank? How is it fair to waste his time and hold him back from his goals. If you fucked around and werent married, yes youd be a skank. But atleast an honest one and you wouldnt needlessly be wasting anyone elses time who wants something else out of life.

Be honest to him and yourself. Bitch.

:shock: :lol:

You killed it right there. This bitch deserved everything, and then some. Classic thread. Stupid whore.