the sick, twisted mind of a guy
ok... i so met this guy at the summer camp i worked at. we were both counselors... i am a senior in highschool, he is a sophomore in college. i am not a pursuer and i'm kinda shy when it comes to guys, so i didn't chase after him like some girls did at camp. when camp was over we started talking and he told me that he liked me a lot. we only had the chance to hang out once outside of camp before he left for a week to go visit his old friends in ny.
before he left he told me that we would hang out more when he got back from ny so we could get to know each other more. everything seemed great... but he started to act different once he came back from his trip. he started to act withdrawn and kinda mean. i finally asked him what was wrong and he explained to me that he had a lot of fun in ny but realized he couldn't have that kind of fun during the school year while taking 18 credits, doing soccer and clubs, etc. he said he didn't have time for a relationship. i explained to him that i was fine being friends, i told him i didn't like hanging out with him because i thought he would be my boyfriend, but because i liked him as a friend. he seemed annoyed with me after this and then he started talking to me less. our friendship fizzled out over the last month and now he ignores me completely.
i just wanted to be friends with him. i mean, yea i liked him, but i wanted to take things slow.
what the hell happened? my friend tells me he was just an ass
Re: the sick, twisted mind of a guy
ok... i so met this guy at the summer camp i worked at. we were both counselors... i am a senior in highschool, he is a sophomore in college. i am not a pursuer and i'm kinda shy when it comes to guys, so i didn't chase after him like some girls did at camp. when camp was over we started talking and he told me that he liked me a lot. we only had the chance to hang out once outside of camp before he left for a week to go visit his old friends in ny.
before he left he told me that we would hang out more when he got back from ny so we could get to know each other more. everything seemed great... but he started to act different once he came back from his trip. he started to act withdrawn and kinda mean. i finally asked him what was wrong and he explained to me that he had a lot of fun in ny but realized he couldn't have that kind of fun during the school year while taking 18 credits, doing soccer and clubs, etc. he said he didn't have time for a relationship. i explained to him that i was fine being friends, i told him i didn't like hanging out with him because i thought he would be my boyfriend, but because i liked him as a friend. he seemed annoyed with me after this and then he started talking to me less. our friendship fizzled out over the last month and now he ignores me completely.
i just wanted to be friends with him. i mean, yea i liked him, but i wanted to take things slow.
what the hell happened? my friend tells me he was just an ass
Your friends are right, he is an ass. If he really cared about you he'd be excited to be your friend but the fact that ignores you is a sure indicator that he's a scumbag. Cut your losses and move on sister.
:)
Re: the sick, twisted mind of a guy
before he left he told me that we would hang out more when he got back from ny so we could get to know each other more. everything seemed great... but he started to act different once he came back from his trip. he started to act withdrawn and kinda mean. i finally asked him what was wrong and he explained to me that he had a lot of fun in ny but realized he couldn't have that kind of fun during the school year while taking 18 credits, doing soccer and clubs, etc. he said he didn't have time for a relationship. i explained to him that i was fine being friends, i told him i didn't like hanging out with him because i thought he would be my boyfriend, but because i liked him as a friend. he seemed annoyed with me after this and then he started talking to me less. our friendship fizzled out over the last month and now he ignores me completely.
i just wanted to be friends with him. i mean, yea i liked him, but i wanted to take things slow.
what the hell happened? my friend tells me he was just an ass
Hey amGirl, welcome to the forums.
Okay, that's actually pretty easy for me to guess what happened. While he was away having a blast in NY he had a casual fling with a girl or two and realized that he didn't want a relationship, just casual flings. He told you he didn't wnat a relationship because he wanted to see if you'd jump on him or not. You didn't, so he figured you'd go away. However, you told him being friends was okay. The reason he's been blowing you off is because he doesn't want a friendship from you... just some a$$ and it would take too long for him to get it.
In all honesty, that's how it is in colllege. Relationships rarely last without one person cheating on the other, and chicks are easy as hell. So, what's the point in having a relationship in college?
Like Syd said. Your friends are right. He's an ass-clown and not worth your time. You're better than that. ;) Next Him.
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hey thanks for replying guys. you've made me think a lot... especially about that fact that he could of hooked up with random girls and then realized i'm not that kind of girl, therefore, i'm not worth his time. well you know what? he's not worth MY time... moving on...
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my friend told me this...
well he went on one date to see how you guys would react, he didnt get much so he went back to buffalo and hooked up with some girls, got whatever he wanted and realized he was in college and didnt wanna sit around and chase after the ass, he wanted ass to come to him and for it to be easy. you were too much of a challenge.
if he wanted to be friends then he wouldve a) asked you out again b) talked to you.
i mean you were the mysterious girl at camp that didnt chase after him, so that attracted him but him being the good looking all round guy he is expected you to fall at his feet soon and you didnt...so he got frustrated
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grrr... that was me above. i need to get a damn account don't i?
Re:the sick, twisted mind of a guy
grrr... that was me above. i need to get a damn account don't i?
Yup. :)
It's okay to feel upset about shitty situations, just don't linger on them doll. Get angry, learn from your mistakes and be happy. There's no point in thinking about how they wronged you because you are wasting the precious time you may have with a new and far better boy. Also, you'll find with the few exceptions of your best friends and family, no single person is worth all the fuss. ;)
Take care Ambitiongirl.
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yea, he's really not worth my time. i really am over him. it's all for the better. i don't need to mope around while he is out there chasing after new meat.
thanks, syd.
Re:the sick, twisted mind of a guy
yea, he's really not worth my time. i really am over him. it's all for the better. i don't need to mope around while he is out there chasing after new meat.
thanks, syd.
No problemo. I'm gonna add you to myspace. :)
Ciao bella.
Hi
He could just be digesting the fact that you want to take it slow. And be disappointed that you do not want something more intimate.
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