Brutally honest dating advice for the cynical, bitter and jaded.

Girls with Boyfriends Bullshit

So my entire last school year was filled with women who had boyfriends but acted like they wanted my cock.

Girl 1: We're chillin' at her place smokin' up and shit. She let's me sleep in her bed but says we shouldn't do anything, and like a gentleman that I aspire to be I didn't try anything. By the morning we're cuddling and shit, but later tells me she doesn't want a relationship with someone from school. I'm like, fine, whatever. Two weeks later she dates someone else from school.

Girl 2: I shared classes with this one. I offer to walk her home after a party, and the whole time her drunk-ass is telling me how much she likes me and how much she wants to be my friend and shit. She's also really hot so I make it a point to give her a hard time, since she has a boyfriend and I can't do anything else about it anyway. Over the course of the year she considers me to be a good friend, but she's always holding me and looking into my eyes when she says it. My idiot self gave into what I perceived were her signals, and started liking her, but I still tried to keep my distance since she still was dating her boyfriend. It even got to the point where she knew I was into her and she started making an active effort to hang with me more (and even made me fuckin' crepes when I was sick once), but she still dated that guy. I've been ignoring her this whole summer.

Girl 3: This one invited me up to her place to smoke alone. We're chillin' listening to music and shit, and I'm getting the vibe that she wants me to make a move. So I do all that cuddly/massage shit you think you're supposed to do in that situation as a man, without being too brazen about it, and she doesn't seem like she's offended by it/doesn't try to stop me. Soon as I'm going for the kiss, she knows it, and tells me she's tired, so I leave. Then I run into my bros and tell them what happened and they're like, "She has a boyfriend." WTF?!

Girl 4: This one allegedly wanted to fuck my brains out, despite being in an open relationship. We were teasing each other about it for a few weeks until we were actually going to meet up to fuck. Then she's like "Oh my bf wants to get serious all of a sudden." So at this point I'm thinking, she's just leading me on being an attention whore. I ignore her pretty much after that. Yesterday I ask her about potential apartments in her area that my friend and I are thinking about renting out, and she sends me probably around 15 texts back-to-back immediately asking me how I'm doing, where the best apartments and bars are, and offers to help me move, all within the span of literally (not figuratively, literally) ten minutes. Then she starts IMing me at work out of the blue for the remainder of the day. As far as I'm aware she's still seeing that guy though.

I've tried to go on dates with single girls, but they don't seem interested. The only ones who seem into me are the ones with boyfriends. It's really fucking frustrating.

So I'm not sure if I want help or just need to rant, but all of this leading-on (or whatever the fuck you'd call it) has really gotten to my self-confidence, and I'm really hesitant to approach women now because I think I'm metaphysically cursed.

You sound like a "nice guy"

You sound like a "nice guy" (not a bad thing) and so what happens is, women use nice guys when they don't have anything else to do.

These girls don't want to have sex with you, they just make you THINK that you have a chance to have sex with them to keep you around.

Yakuza

Yep sorry man but you got the signs of a nice guy.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nice_guy

Educate yourself.

Being a 'nice guy' is

Being a 'nice guy' is probably the worst thing you can do in this situation. The girls you are hanging around with are either teases, or are considering cheating on their boyfriends. (A girl sharing a bed with you is leading you on whether she 'means to' or not). Girls like this, in my opinion, are good for one thing. So stay emotionally unattached and try not to waste too much time on the ones that don't seem likely to yield results. Remember, if a girl will cheat with you, they will cheat on you.

For what it's worth...

I hope you get the chance to read this bro. Here's what your problem is, you have to be "the man". These girls do like you and think you're good looking enough, otherwise they wouldn't even hang out with you. If any one of them were truly serious with their boyfriends, they wouldn't even give you the time of day. These other guys are right, you are a "nice guy". But nice guys CAN get the girl. What you have to do is to be an upgrade over these other dudes. How can you do that? Well you can go make a bunch of money & drive a BMW, then they'll give it up just to live the "lifestyle". Or you can look one of these girls in the eyes (or more if you're a good liar, then good for you) and tell them how beautiful they are, and how much YOU want them. Sincerity is key! (women can sense that shit) These girls know that you want to fuck them, all guys want to fuck them. Women want to feel special, so make her feel that way. You have to be in it for the long haul. A lot of girls may act slutty but really only a few really are. If none of these girls are worth putting in that much work, go find one that is. Don't ever think that any girl is out of your league. You have to be "the man". You have to believe that you're an upgrade over any other guy. Just focus on your strengths and what you have to offer & don't think about what you aren't or what you don't have. Most dudes ain't shit and you know it. I've been with many girls who were way out of my league so believe me, this shit works. Own it bro! Good luck

Women like to feel that they

Women like to feel that they have that power over men, even if they keep fooling u 4ever or get tired of it.

Feminism ruins everything

Nice guy

I'm a woman, and yep, this screams "nice guy". Now, I married a nice guy 20 years ago, so there's nothing wrong with a nice guy. The problem is that you're not moving from a nice guy to anything else. This is the equivalent of "not initiating". For the crepe girl, all you ever had to do was say "Hey, I like you, and not as a friend. Want to dump your boyfriend and date me? If not, then I don't want to be friends with you." Nice guys are great, but if you never ask her to make a decision, you can just circle the bowl forever. There is a difference between a nice guy and a doormat. If you only speak up as much as a doormat, you're not very useful. My hubby got me with a pretty simple package: "I'm a nice guy. I want you. We can be good together. If you ever don't like it, walk" It's been almost 25 years now, and I still haven't found a reason to walk. :))

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