Need perspective badly...

I will make this as concise as possible. So I dated this broad for about 2 months and things started off pretty heavy. As I am 25 and have been through numerous relationships, long and short, I immediately set boundries. She wanted to come over every day and I made sure that didnt happen, although we did spend quite a bit of time together. Often times she would meet up with me at a bar then leave, and ask me if I was mad about it. I always said no and that was the truth. I said, "you can do whatever you want we aren't married." Of course the sex was good and we had it a lot. After about the 1 month time period she started sending me text messages saying she couldn't stop thinking about me and things along those lines. I must confess that I was starting to like her but this was not my first rodeo so I never bit on the messages. In the mean time her friend would constantly tell me that she really liked me and wanted to know what our status was...I would always be nice and just say, "we just met, I dont know". At about a 1 1/2 months I was definitely starting to like her, she presented herself as a genuine female so I told her so. A few days later she sent me a text saying she wanted me to love her which freaked me out but she was drunk so I shrugged it off. No more than 2 days later she starts completely ignoring me. I send her a text saying lets talk and I'm ignored. Again, I date a lot and did not expect the following: I was a mess. I mean, the full spectrum of love-pain...that was me. I tried to just forget her but I couldnt. I figured maybe she thought I wasn't really into her so I decided to tell her how I was reacting to the situation. She said we have different personalities and it just not meant to be. Obviously, I was confused at this point after everything she had said but not being a child I new I just had to move on. The next day I go over to my friends house wanting to vent and shes over there sitting on the couch. You can imagine my astonishment. Yet my boys didnt seem to think anything of it and they WERE close friends, not just aquaintences. "Apparently" since the 2 weeks I had introduced them they had become friends unbeknownst to me. When she left I let loose and asked them why the fuck she was over there. The response was along the lines of "dude, chill out, shes a cool chick, dont be rediculous..." I was infuriated by this reaction but since they were close friends (or so I thought) I really tried to explain the situation and let them know that she was obviously playing games and using them as weapons (also I know for a fact she wasnt sleeping with either of them). We sort of smoothed things over and one of them said she prolly wasnt going to come over anymore. Sure as shit, shes over there day after day and once again I'm called rediculous.

Anyways, I could go on forever and of course I feel like the book I just wrote doesnt explain things nearly as well as I'd like. I also dont even know what I'm looking for. I guess it just feels good to write. Any thoughts, opinions, questions...lemme have it.