staying friends with a "friend with benefits"
i'm kind of seeing one of my best friends, but we both don't want to date. i really like him, and the relationship escalated to "with benefits" probly because of my crush on him...
this guy was my ex's best friend. when my ex moved away, in just a few weeks we started seeing each other. it started from a night of hard drinking and just having some fun. it was a great time that we both don't regret! we've started seeing each other more, and it's been a totally new experience for me. i had never been with anyone before who i wasn't in a committed relationship with.
but.
he's a total ass! i think at this point i feel like he's mocking me when i stay over. he knows that i will just come back when i need a lay.. i don't deny it but damn! i guess i do make it easy for him, but that's because we flirt so easily and hang out alone a lot.
how can i tell if after we decide to either start seeing other people or just not sleep together anymore that we are still going to be friends? i love him to death as a friend, and i would hate to just never hang out anymore. i love how the sex is just a little bit extra.. we are not lovers. it's actually a great feeling.. but i feel shitty when he doesn't want me to stay after..
just tell me if i'm being a stupid skank. i already feel like it. i guess i just want to know if anyone else has been there and what they do to keep him around.. but not too close so we don't hurt each other.
You are being a stupid skank
Sorry, you are though. You are just going to get hurt. There is nothing good that can come from this situation, even though he might be awesome, where's the respect? (Both from him and in yourself). Cut your losses.
You will just get hurt.
You will just get hurt. Think, he is using you. Get out of this before you wind up hurt.
do you want him to lose interest?
http://www.southparkstudios.com/clips/154965
moral of the story: "..and the man loses interest in the lady.."
if you really like him, show some respect for yourself and keep friends.. or at least play hard to get, make him earn it instead of just putting out. how long does he stay after he "sneezes milk"?
just a suggestion.
Get Out
Being "fucking friends" is ridiculous. You will get hurt. he has no respect for you at this point. please, there is no way you could keep your dignity and self respect by remaining friends. Get out while the getting is good.
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why do you want what's bad for you. do you think your trash? your not please don't do this to yourself. you love it because your not "hurting" anyone but yourself. In a way your selfless, i can understand. i can tell your smart, you obviously know what's going on. Your not a skanky slut or else you wouldn't be having second thoughts and posting this. please find a guy that will treat you right. and despite what everyone says about guys only want sex, there is someone one out there that would give you that sex thrill and not take you for granted. Wishful thinking? maybe but that's what life is all about, an adventure. take the chance girl.. what are you afraid of? Hurting some guy.. please your too kind just do it. that guy would probably need the experience of a crushing heart again. He will learn, and understand the world better. Isn't that alright to live with now? But sincerely, i hope your alright the fact that your not afraid of guys after being missed used speaks loudly. You have a better future. you know what pain is if you don't have a reason to endure it, leave it. There will be other great battles to come. sorry maybe i made this too personal..
Been There. Experienced That.
Two months ago i was in the same situation. Let me tell you now...he didnt stay around. So sorry to "burst your bubble" but tht will happen 2 u 2 prolly... Prepare yourself and stick up 4 urself. I let him walk all over me and ended up in a place i didnt want 2 be. Hurt him b4 he hurts you. And end it now b4 u start havin actual real feelings 4 him. Like what happened 2 me. Hope things turn out good. Goodluck!
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