Why do I put up with this?!
i’ve been dating this guy for about two years now and i used to love him. we really loved each other and we constantly be talking to each other. we both loved weed. everything was going great until he got shitload of money from his grandpa. but he mainly spent it on weed, bongs, and stupid subwhofffers(sp?)and completely blew it in 2.5 months. he started to not talk to me on the phone as much and treated me like shit. he stopped taking his meds and now he has a really bad anger problem. he had a good job and he got fired for doing something grimy. he blames me for getting him fired because wanted to go somewhere nice for out 2 year anniversary. i stopped smoking and he kept doing it. even when he didn’t have money to buy some. he constantly calls me a bitch, fat, slut, cheater(never ever ever cheated), retard now that he doesn’t take his pills. he thinks i’m cheating on him because i dress well, i don’t look like a slob, and i just got a cold sore. and he ALWAYS thinks there is someone else. and he blames it on being cheated on in middle school. his friends have no lives. all they do is smoke pot and mooch off of him. i want him to hang out with his old friends. his sister wrote a rude status about me on facebook and says i use him. i don’t! i don’t wanna pay for gas money anymore!! i have dreams. i want to do great things and I want to create a good life for myself. if i have him in my life then i will fail. but is he worth risking everything? he used to be really nice, sometimes he’d pick a flower for me, or go to in n out, make food for each other, or do something classy. now all he wants to do is ‘relax’ (sit in front of the tv and smoke) and he thinks i should be happy just to see him. i don’t smoke and i would rather do something productive than watch tv. why do I put up with this? i can’t stand his friends, the weed( he could smoke it like once a week or when he’s actually stressed out), no job, and he makes me pay for his gas money. i don’t have a job because i’m in school and he’s not. he says he wants to be with me and be with him for the rest of my life but i don’t wanna have to risk everything and then have to put up with his shenanigans. what do I do? do I sit and talk with him? do I go to relationship counselor? or do I just break up with him?