New book explains how your parents have already ruined your love life.

You always suspected that your parents would screw up any chance you had at happiness, right? Well, you were right. And unfortunately, if you’re old enough to read this, you’re too late to stop them.

As a child, the emotional bonding you did with your parents (or didn’t do) plays a HUGE role in how long your adult relationships will last (or won’t last). And the sooner you identify the type you are (and the type your current love interest is), the sooner you’ll realize that your love is doomed.

Turns out there are three basic types of attachment most people exhibit. According to “Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find — And Keep — Love” by Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, they are as follows:

  • Anxious
  • Avoidant
  • Secure

To paraphrase the researchers, people who identify as “Secure” sufficiently bonded with their parents, are capable of adult love, and probably aren’t visiting this website.

Those who are “Anxious” didn’t bond enough and, as a result, are insecure, jealous, clingy, desperate, paranoid and probably shouldn’t be allowed to own any sharp objects.

“Avoidant” people are emotionally distant, commitment-phobes who worry about losing their independence and freedom to inevitably die alone in a motorhome.

“Attached. The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find — And Keep — Love” delves into more detail that can help you determine your type as well as the type you’ll probably find most compatible.

And since your current relationship is assuredly doomed, you’ll have time to read it cover to cover. Maybe even twice.

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my parents screwed me up and i’ve screwed up every relationship, including my current one. i feel like i need constant attention and no one can fulfill my emotional needs. i felt so lonely as a child, like i was anonymous. i craved personal connection. now, as an adult, i am addicted to it. this addiction has cost me love and sometimes i wonder whether or not it will cost me my life.

No matter how much your parents screwed up, you still have the power of choice. You can choose to find ways to heal yourself from the past and allow yourself to move forward in all areas of your life… OR.. you can let your mind/life run on auto-pilot and not take responsibility for the choices you made that resulted in your life’s outcomes. Yes, it will be hard as a constipated shit but the positive results are more than worth it. Hell, I had a tough childhood and I’ve sabotaged pasts relationships but the pain of staying the same was greater than the act of changing my ways.

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