To be a happy slut or heal; that is the question.

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I broke-up with my boyfriend over a month ago. I still love him and yada yada yada but that damn fucker is a liar. We had a relationship based on honesty (we were friends first) but that charming fucker lied to me time and time again so he’s not worth it. Plus, he was pretty gay and into all this uhh, it bothers me to think about. I rather not mention it here. I have a few questions. Should I just forget him and start dating again? Should I do the “I’m single and I’m searching for myself again” thing or just pull of the promiscuous whore bit? I’m obviously ambivalent here so i want to know what you ladies would do. Thanks a lot. :)

”Sydney” wrote:
I broke-up with my boyfriend over a month ago. I still love him and yada yada yada but that damn fucker is a liar. We had a relationship based on honesty (we were friends first) but that charming fucker lied to me time and time again so he’s not worth it. Plus, he was pretty gay and into all this uhh, it bothers me to think about. I rather not mention it here. I have a few questions. Should I just forget him and start dating again? Should I do the “I’m single and I’m searching for myself again” thing or just pull of the promiscuous whore bit? I’m obviously ambivalent here so i want to know what you ladies would do. Thanks a lot. :)
Ahem, I’m not a lady per se, more of a lady pleaser. The choice is up to you. If you just wanna fuck and it makes you happy then do it. My personal advice is to find yourself again. Because in relationshits, that’s what they are, you lose a piece of yourself. If you find yourself again you’ll fall in love with yourself again. By the way, you were with a homo? Ahahahahah.

Hmm, I say find a happy medium. You can go all soul search-y and still have fun slut moments. That is, if you can swing not getting emotionally attatched to the people you…whatever it is your going to do with them.

”Sydney” wrote:
I have a few questions. Should I just forget him and start dating again? Should I do the “I’m single and I’m searching for myself again” thing or just pull of the promiscuous whore bit? I’m obviously ambivalent here so i want to know what you ladies would do. Thanks a lot. :)
Only you can answer that question. I do have to note that its rather funny how many chicks become sluts after a break up. The “single and searching for myself” bit and the “slut” bit are one-in-the-same. Any chick who says they are “searching for their identity” are almost always the ones out jumping on anything that moves (this is even more likely when drinking & friends are involved). Not bitching about the “identity sluts” because I love ‘em. Sluts, god bless ‘em…god bless ‘em all! anyway, back on topic. It really comes down to this question. Are you ready to try another relationship? Just my .02

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Ahem, I’m not a lady per se, more of a lady pleaser. The choice is up to you. If you just wanna fuck and it makes you happy then do it. My personal advice is to find yourself again. Because in relationshits, that’s what they are, you lose a piece of yourself. If you find yourself again you’ll fall in love with yourself again. By the way, you were with a homo? Ahahahahah.
Thanks. You know, I think I just did. Hehehe. Making love to yourself really helps you find that special, okay, I think I’ve said enough. And no, I don’t think he’s gay but he was into transgendered folk and it freaked me out. I said I’d get a penis for him and meant it but that was then and this is now. I’m happy with my body thanks, if he wants to date transgendered folk, he should do that but eghad, his porn selection was out there. REALLY out there.

”Spookynapkins” wrote:
Hmm, I say find a happy medium. You can go all soul search-y and still have fun slut moments. That is, if you can swing not getting emotionally attatched to the people you…whatever it is your going to do with them.
Yeah, the “middle way.” I’m no Buddhist but I’d like to be. Thanks for your input. :)

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Only you can answer that question. I do have to note that its rather funny how many chicks become sluts after a break up. The “single and searching for myself” bit and the “slut” bit are one-in-the-same. Any chick who says they are “searching for their identity” are almost always the ones out jumping on anything that moves (this is even more likely when drinking & friends are involved). Not bitching about the “identity sluts” because I love ‘em. Sluts, god bless ‘em…god bless ‘em all! anyway, back on topic. It really comes down to this question. Are you ready to try another relationship? Just my .02
Thanks for your input. It was very helpful. Yeah, I most certainly am not ready for a relationship. The only problem is the guys I want a casual fling with always want to date me and I feel obligated to oblige them. I can rarely say no to puppy dog eyes but I’m learning. God I love this site. ;)

”Sydney” wrote:
”Spookynapkins” wrote:
Hmm, I say find a happy medium. You can go all soul search-y and still have fun slut moments. That is, if you can swing not getting emotionally attatched to the people you…whatever it is your going to do with them.
Yeah, the “middle way.” I’m no Buddhist but I’d like to be. Thanks for your input. :)
I’m looking to convert to buddhist too. Judging from your current posts, you’re ready to get your fuck on. Just remember to be strapped. And try not to fuck any weirdos.

”Mike” wrote:
”Sydney” wrote:
”Spookynapkins” wrote:
Hmm, I say find a happy medium. You can go all soul search-y and still have fun slut moments. That is, if you can swing not getting emotionally attatched to the people you…whatever it is your going to do with them.
Yeah, the “middle way.” I’m no Buddhist but I’d like to be. Thanks for your input. :)
I’m looking to convert to buddhist too. Judging from your current posts, you’re ready to get your fuck on. Just remember to be strapped. And try not to fuck any weirdos.
Well I am a weirdo so that’s a given. Strapped? What does that mean? Is it weird that a part of me wants to cuddle after fucking even if the dude is a total stranger?

”Sydney” wrote:
Is it weird that a part of me wants to cuddle after fucking even if the dude is a total stranger?
Yeah, I can tell you as a current “total stranger” we’re not usually down to cuddle after smashing. Works something like this: Her: I just want to cuddle… Me: Uh, I’m gonna get a sandwich. ;)

”guest <decz>” wrote:
”Sydney” wrote:
Is it weird that a part of me wants to cuddle after fucking even if the dude is a total stranger?
Yeah, I can tell you as a current “total stranger” we’re not usually down to cuddle after smashing. Works something like this: Her: I just want to cuddle… Me: Uh, I’m gonna get a sandwich. ;)
Yeah, I know the drill. That’s how I was like when I dated a dude out of pity. Not a pretty scene. You find every possible reason NOT to cuddle: I need to go to the washroom (stay in there until they fall asleep), I have school/work early tomorrow morning, I’m all sweaty. Ah well.

”Sydney” wrote:
”guest <decz>” wrote:
”Sydney” wrote:
Is it weird that a part of me wants to cuddle after fucking even if the dude is a total stranger?
Yeah, I can tell you as a current “total stranger” we’re not usually down to cuddle after smashing. Works something like this: Her: I just want to cuddle… Me: Uh, I’m gonna get a sandwich. ;)
Yeah, I know the drill. That’s how I was like when I dated a dude out of pity. Not a pretty scene. You find every possible reason NOT to cuddle: I need to go to the washroom (stay in there until they fall asleep), I have school/work early tomorrow morning, I’m all sweaty. Ah well.
Bitches will be bitches…

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Bitches will be bitches…
Right. I did it once and we’re still friends. But hey, feel free to judge me.

May I just say what a comfort to uncover somebody who genuinely understands what they’re discussing online. You actually know how to bring a problem to light and make it important. A lot more people need to look at this and understand this side of your story. I was surprised that you aren’t more popular because you most certainly have the gift.

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