I'm so sorry for what she did. Deployments are brutal on military families and she really didn't handle it well. See a lawyer and let her go - the kids shouldn't be raised with this kind of anger and you will never be able to heal with her in the house.
it is sad that someone has referred to personality disorders as 'fictional mental conditions.' This reflects a general ignorance about mental health issues in our society. The DSM was written and up-dated based on masses of continuing research about the particular combinations of abnormal behaviours that manifest in people who are emotionally damaged. Being close to people who have been damaged in earlier life and exhibit the symptoms of disorders like borderline personality and Bi-Polar two, is to know that categorizing groups of behaviours and possible causes/solutions is helpful in difficult reltionaships.
I'm a woman, and yep, this screams "nice guy". Now, I married a nice guy 20 years ago, so there's nothing wrong with a nice guy. The problem is that you're not moving from a nice guy to anything else. This is the equivalent of "not initiating". For the crepe girl, all you ever had to do was say "Hey, I like you, and not as a friend. Want to dump your boyfriend and date me? If not, then I don't want to be friends with you." Nice guys are great, but if you never ask her to make a decision, you can just circle the bowl forever. There is a difference between a nice guy and a doormat. If you only speak up as much as a doormat, you're not very useful. My hubby got me with a pretty simple package: "I'm a nice guy. I want you. We can be good together. If you ever don't like it, walk" It's been almost 25 years now, and I still haven't found a reason to walk. :))
My husband really loves the fact that I'm bi, and loves to watch me with other women when we are doing 3/4-ways. So you guys go right ahead and keep dissing the women. The truth, the reason you aren't getting any is because a very few men have a lot of women. Losers lose, winners win!
Awesome comment: "stop trading money with women for sex". Geez guys, seems simple, doesn't it - if you want to weed out the goldiggers, don't pay for the first date. Dutch treat, 50/50. If all she wants is money, she'll be gone.
In case you didn't read the "how to" guide, women want attention, not money. Money is just one way to get attention. If you're all flashy-washy with the cash, you'll attract the carrion eaters.
Signed,
six-fig chick (aka, I sure don't need or want your effin money - I've got more than enough of my own!)
:p
So true! With the adult crowd (ie anyone who has gotten laid, ever), this is certainly the case. A woman has to be smart, funny, into him, in shape, independent, be crazy in bed but polite in public, etc. etc. Then, by the time we master all that shit, he gets all "issue-y", starts to find us intimidating, or too worthy of respect to fuck, and his madonna-whore thing starts to show. Next thing you know, we are effin purrfect, and he wants to show his respect by going to a movie or something equally dull. Men who can truly accept a woman's sexuality are as rare as the proverbial unicorn (the hawt 25 year old SWF who wants to have her first threesome with you and your boyfriend)
I was in a bar once when the subject came up that a survey said 70% of men have faked the big O. The guys in the group agreed that seemed about right. The women, well, we haven't been the same since! :(
Guys are full of shit. Yep, nice words, then run like rabbits. Happens all the time. It's too bad they can't handle a good thing. His loss, not yours. Just learn from it and go fuck someone else.
Welcome to the real world. The myth of male sexuality is the biggest propaganda/lie/false advertising campaign ever. Women have a much greater capacity for, and interest in, sex than men do. As a swinger, I have had sex with a variety of people - the reality is that men can only handle a small amount of sex, typically less than two hours (and honestly, it is a LOT of work to make love to a woman, so I understand why). When women are turned on, we want more, which leads to a feedback loop of "That was great, let's do it again!", whereas a guy "That was great, let's sleep now".
You will NEVER be able to find one man who can satisfy your sexuality. Just find a man who has a cuckold fetish or who is into open relationships and then have fun together. You will both benefit in the long run.
To FIND a man like this, watch the 1999 movie "Sex Monster" together. It's the most accurate portrayal of male sexuality I've ever seen. Have the conversation - if he can't believe it would ever be that way, dump him. If he laughs and says "yeah, I can see that happening", he just might be a keeper.
I disagree with the others... He went crying home to MOMMY???? Like the song says "If I wanted a child, I would have had a baby". Clearly, you had the BOY in boyfriend, when what you were hoping for was a man. A man would have said "Tell me to my face". (I've been married 25 years, to a MAN)
This is the definition of a relationshit. Even if you love the guy, the relationship is terrible and you have to leave. Maybe he will be a different man in a different relationship with a different woman and maybe it will work for him. But it is clear that the relationshit between you and him is terrible and you have to leave for your own sanity.
Girl, you are kidding, right? The reason men like porn is because it comes with a remote control. You CANNOT compete with a tech toy!!! Let him have it - if he were in a room full of porn queens dying to fuck him, he'd still rather reach for the remote. The masturbation has nothing to do with you or the porn - it's just a habit, like brushing his teeth. There's no reason to be insecure - you are terrific and he knows it. Just make sure he remembers to tell you how terrific you are every day - don't let him take you for granted.
Yeah, I second that comment. Me and my wife had our 16th Anniversary on Nov. 26th. She had in a sexy outfit and I said "Hey, that's looks good on you, you look really good" this MF told me "yeah, thats why alot of man want to talk to me". I was so mad inside but, we were all dressed up and going out to eat at the cheescake factory in Virginia beach and my kids were coming and I didnt want to ruin it for them so I sucked up my pride and keep the peace so we can go out. Stupid shit??? that was down right DISRESPECTFUL. Fucking women, not all of them but, most of them. Some just fuck it up for all of them.
My boyfriend and i have lived together and dated for four years and he used to tell me he loved me then stopped and hasnt said it in over three years. He gave me a promise ring almost a year and a half ago but im ready for more. I dont want to call him my boyfriend anymore, i love him and would love to spend my life with him, he talks about kidn but not marriage he says one of us will change the way his parents did they divorced after twenty years. But it shouldnt be that way marriage is about those valls to love in sickness or health, rich or poor, thats my reason to be married to be with one guy that i love forever.
Hello, Friendship is not only because of feelings or what we have but because of understanding, sharing and caring. friendship does not think distance, age or even colour. friendship is not just playing or chatting with each other. but friendship is hearing each others voice from the heart. A friend is a gift from God. someone who will cares as much as i do. i have read your profile and i became interested in you and i will like to know you more, i am miss Joy yak, i want to be your friend please mail on (******@yahoo.co.uk) with a picture of you ok? then i will send you my pictures and as well tell you more about me. hope to hear from you soonest. Thanks please reply me here on (******@yahoo.co.uk)
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Women don't want you, women make better lovers, women are more caring and more understanding. If I want help and support I would never go to a man, if I want sex I will go to a woman or a vibrator. Straight men are not worth it. I have never met a woman who thought she was entitled to sex just for existing, and I am yet to meet a woman who has not got me off emotionally and physically. Men are terrible lovers and partners. They really have to acknowledge this.
Both of you are assholes. As a woman, I stay with a man and give his the blow jobs and sex he wants because I want something in return. I think it's really respectful to propose between 3-5 years. All you're looking for is an echo-chamber response thread where people agree that what the guy is saying is wrong.
It's not, and he wouldn't have said it without experience.
If it has been more than four years and there's no sign of marriage in the horizon, I destroy the man for leading me on and wasting me time. Because, as you are no doubt guilty of as well, men want company, so they'll placate the woman jut enough to keep her around. He'll say something that he knows she'll take as a hint to keep her around because keeping her is easier than playing the field and men are lazy like that.
So, no, you guys are full of horseshit and need to learn respect
On the flip side... I was one of those uncaring, self absorbed men who fell in and out of love with no regard for the girl's feelings. I figured I was done and I moved on and she should too. I was seriously in intense relationships twice a year at least for 4 years. Then I wake up one day, watch the notebook and realize I'm a total dick.
This was over 6 years ago and I have really reformed. Seriously, for some reason the stupid movie stirred something inside and changed me. I worked on finding a nice girl, committed to her and married her a few years ago. We had our first child and he means the world to us. It's more likely that she cheats on me now, than I were to do something. The whole point of the rant is that at some point most men do have a switch turn on. Nobody teaches us what to do and what most of us do is follow our dick. Half the time we fall in love, we have feelings for you because we love the sex or the attention. When we do manage to make a connection we are distracted by someone else with bigger boobs, lighter eyes or something insignificant. We walk around not valuing the connection we have made and take it for granted to the point where we know we have something to fall back on so we look for something else... an adventure of sorts. We cheat, we lie, we suck.
At some point, the devil shouting in our ear deafens us and we realize there are other things we can listen to from the other side.
Guys aren't men. Only men are men and we get there after much time and effort. Don't wait around for us to change and don't think you can be the one to change us. Significant change only comes from within.
So don't worry. You didn't do anything wrong, unless you did. It wasn't your fault, unless it was. It's probably that we are idiots for 22-25 years and then we start to use our reason and at about 30 we realize we have a heart that can actually love someone fairly, deeply and honestly, so we start to use that too.
I only loved twice, once when I was 17 and I fell in love with my first love and now that I am in love with my true love.
When you realize sex is just friction and you can kill that desire with girls photoshoped in porn, who look ten times better anyway. Just do yourself a favor as I do jerk off and be done with the thought. I'd honestly rather build my perfect women in a virtual world or hit the iron at the gym than deal with the constant selfish women. If you don't have money, aren't some two inch bicep king bitch boy, who thinks he is cool and very tough having lots of resources at his hands then women won't respect you! You needs lots of money for them because in the end just being committed to each other is not what they really want. This doesn't mean turn gay either guys or let women convince you that's why you're turned off by them. It's just a means of coming to maturity. Enjoy your life and when the urge for a girl comes around just remember masturbation is your friend! The world is a cruel, dark gruesome place. I honestly don't even want kids now that I have met woman and more so understand the world and how it works. I'd rather save my unborn children from the pain an sorrow and this cold dark earth and the rest of the world dig themselves a grave fighting over selfish desires. I'm very content and become sane again when I'm left alone as much as possible as an individual in this world. This really does go for all things especially women. You'll find the silence will destroy the selfish, greedy, corrupt in this world as it restores you and makes you whole again. Let the women have their greedy men that think they are worth the time. It's those greedy fools who are just as bad as them and the good guys the ones worth it who will die alone. Real men stand alone!
they are the filth, that god made by mistake.
I'm so sorry for what she did. Deployments are brutal on military families and she really didn't handle it well. See a lawyer and let her go - the kids shouldn't be raised with this kind of anger and you will never be able to heal with her in the house.
it is sad that someone has referred to personality disorders as 'fictional mental conditions.' This reflects a general ignorance about mental health issues in our society. The DSM was written and up-dated based on masses of continuing research about the particular combinations of abnormal behaviours that manifest in people who are emotionally damaged. Being close to people who have been damaged in earlier life and exhibit the symptoms of disorders like borderline personality and Bi-Polar two, is to know that categorizing groups of behaviours and possible causes/solutions is helpful in difficult reltionaships.
If ever there was a reason to leave town and start afresh, this is it. Move, man.
I'm a woman, and yep, this screams "nice guy". Now, I married a nice guy 20 years ago, so there's nothing wrong with a nice guy. The problem is that you're not moving from a nice guy to anything else. This is the equivalent of "not initiating". For the crepe girl, all you ever had to do was say "Hey, I like you, and not as a friend. Want to dump your boyfriend and date me? If not, then I don't want to be friends with you." Nice guys are great, but if you never ask her to make a decision, you can just circle the bowl forever. There is a difference between a nice guy and a doormat. If you only speak up as much as a doormat, you're not very useful. My hubby got me with a pretty simple package: "I'm a nice guy. I want you. We can be good together. If you ever don't like it, walk" It's been almost 25 years now, and I still haven't found a reason to walk. :))
My husband really loves the fact that I'm bi, and loves to watch me with other women when we are doing 3/4-ways. So you guys go right ahead and keep dissing the women. The truth, the reason you aren't getting any is because a very few men have a lot of women. Losers lose, winners win!
Awesome comment: "stop trading money with women for sex". Geez guys, seems simple, doesn't it - if you want to weed out the goldiggers, don't pay for the first date. Dutch treat, 50/50. If all she wants is money, she'll be gone.
In case you didn't read the "how to" guide, women want attention, not money. Money is just one way to get attention. If you're all flashy-washy with the cash, you'll attract the carrion eaters.
Signed,
six-fig chick (aka, I sure don't need or want your effin money - I've got more than enough of my own!)
:p
So true! With the adult crowd (ie anyone who has gotten laid, ever), this is certainly the case. A woman has to be smart, funny, into him, in shape, independent, be crazy in bed but polite in public, etc. etc. Then, by the time we master all that shit, he gets all "issue-y", starts to find us intimidating, or too worthy of respect to fuck, and his madonna-whore thing starts to show. Next thing you know, we are effin purrfect, and he wants to show his respect by going to a movie or something equally dull. Men who can truly accept a woman's sexuality are as rare as the proverbial unicorn (the hawt 25 year old SWF who wants to have her first threesome with you and your boyfriend)
True dat. As long as you don't care, they will, and vice versa. It sucks.
I was in a bar once when the subject came up that a survey said 70% of men have faked the big O. The guys in the group agreed that seemed about right. The women, well, we haven't been the same since! :(
Guys are full of shit. Yep, nice words, then run like rabbits. Happens all the time. It's too bad they can't handle a good thing. His loss, not yours. Just learn from it and go fuck someone else.
Welcome to the real world. The myth of male sexuality is the biggest propaganda/lie/false advertising campaign ever. Women have a much greater capacity for, and interest in, sex than men do. As a swinger, I have had sex with a variety of people - the reality is that men can only handle a small amount of sex, typically less than two hours (and honestly, it is a LOT of work to make love to a woman, so I understand why). When women are turned on, we want more, which leads to a feedback loop of "That was great, let's do it again!", whereas a guy "That was great, let's sleep now".
You will NEVER be able to find one man who can satisfy your sexuality. Just find a man who has a cuckold fetish or who is into open relationships and then have fun together. You will both benefit in the long run.
To FIND a man like this, watch the 1999 movie "Sex Monster" together. It's the most accurate portrayal of male sexuality I've ever seen. Have the conversation - if he can't believe it would ever be that way, dump him. If he laughs and says "yeah, I can see that happening", he just might be a keeper.
I disagree with the others... He went crying home to MOMMY???? Like the song says "If I wanted a child, I would have had a baby". Clearly, you had the BOY in boyfriend, when what you were hoping for was a man. A man would have said "Tell me to my face". (I've been married 25 years, to a MAN)
This is the definition of a relationshit. Even if you love the guy, the relationship is terrible and you have to leave. Maybe he will be a different man in a different relationship with a different woman and maybe it will work for him. But it is clear that the relationshit between you and him is terrible and you have to leave for your own sanity.
Girl, you are kidding, right? The reason men like porn is because it comes with a remote control. You CANNOT compete with a tech toy!!! Let him have it - if he were in a room full of porn queens dying to fuck him, he'd still rather reach for the remote. The masturbation has nothing to do with you or the porn - it's just a habit, like brushing his teeth. There's no reason to be insecure - you are terrific and he knows it. Just make sure he remembers to tell you how terrific you are every day - don't let him take you for granted.
Yeah, I second that comment. Me and my wife had our 16th Anniversary on Nov. 26th. She had in a sexy outfit and I said "Hey, that's looks good on you, you look really good" this MF told me "yeah, thats why alot of man want to talk to me". I was so mad inside but, we were all dressed up and going out to eat at the cheescake factory in Virginia beach and my kids were coming and I didnt want to ruin it for them so I sucked up my pride and keep the peace so we can go out. Stupid shit??? that was down right DISRESPECTFUL. Fucking women, not all of them but, most of them. Some just fuck it up for all of them.
My boyfriend and i have lived together and dated for four years and he used to tell me he loved me then stopped and hasnt said it in over three years. He gave me a promise ring almost a year and a half ago but im ready for more. I dont want to call him my boyfriend anymore, i love him and would love to spend my life with him, he talks about kidn but not marriage he says one of us will change the way his parents did they divorced after twenty years. But it shouldnt be that way marriage is about those valls to love in sickness or health, rich or poor, thats my reason to be married to be with one guy that i love forever.
Hello, Friendship is not only because of feelings or what we have but because of understanding, sharing and caring. friendship does not think distance, age or even colour. friendship is not just playing or chatting with each other. but friendship is hearing each others voice from the heart. A friend is a gift from God. someone who will cares as much as i do. i have read your profile and i became interested in you and i will like to know you more, i am miss Joy yak, i want to be your friend please mail on (******@yahoo.co.uk) with a picture of you ok? then i will send you my pictures and as well tell you more about me. hope to hear from you soonest. Thanks please reply me here on (******@yahoo.co.uk)
Joy yak
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Women don't want you, women make better lovers, women are more caring and more understanding. If I want help and support I would never go to a man, if I want sex I will go to a woman or a vibrator. Straight men are not worth it. I have never met a woman who thought she was entitled to sex just for existing, and I am yet to meet a woman who has not got me off emotionally and physically. Men are terrible lovers and partners. They really have to acknowledge this.
Pure fucking genius! Sounds about like my ex...cept she is much more of a dumb fuck. Let me know how this plays out. Well thought out haha
Pure fucking genius! Find about like my ex...cept she is much more of adumb fuck. Let me know how this plays out. Well thought out haha
Both of you are assholes. As a woman, I stay with a man and give his the blow jobs and sex he wants because I want something in return. I think it's really respectful to propose between 3-5 years. All you're looking for is an echo-chamber response thread where people agree that what the guy is saying is wrong.
It's not, and he wouldn't have said it without experience.
If it has been more than four years and there's no sign of marriage in the horizon, I destroy the man for leading me on and wasting me time. Because, as you are no doubt guilty of as well, men want company, so they'll placate the woman jut enough to keep her around. He'll say something that he knows she'll take as a hint to keep her around because keeping her is easier than playing the field and men are lazy like that.
So, no, you guys are full of horseshit and need to learn respect
On the flip side... I was one of those uncaring, self absorbed men who fell in and out of love with no regard for the girl's feelings. I figured I was done and I moved on and she should too. I was seriously in intense relationships twice a year at least for 4 years. Then I wake up one day, watch the notebook and realize I'm a total dick.
This was over 6 years ago and I have really reformed. Seriously, for some reason the stupid movie stirred something inside and changed me. I worked on finding a nice girl, committed to her and married her a few years ago. We had our first child and he means the world to us. It's more likely that she cheats on me now, than I were to do something. The whole point of the rant is that at some point most men do have a switch turn on. Nobody teaches us what to do and what most of us do is follow our dick. Half the time we fall in love, we have feelings for you because we love the sex or the attention. When we do manage to make a connection we are distracted by someone else with bigger boobs, lighter eyes or something insignificant. We walk around not valuing the connection we have made and take it for granted to the point where we know we have something to fall back on so we look for something else... an adventure of sorts. We cheat, we lie, we suck.
At some point, the devil shouting in our ear deafens us and we realize there are other things we can listen to from the other side.
Guys aren't men. Only men are men and we get there after much time and effort. Don't wait around for us to change and don't think you can be the one to change us. Significant change only comes from within.
So don't worry. You didn't do anything wrong, unless you did. It wasn't your fault, unless it was. It's probably that we are idiots for 22-25 years and then we start to use our reason and at about 30 we realize we have a heart that can actually love someone fairly, deeply and honestly, so we start to use that too.
I only loved twice, once when I was 17 and I fell in love with my first love and now that I am in love with my true love.
When you realize sex is just friction and you can kill that desire with girls photoshoped in porn, who look ten times better anyway. Just do yourself a favor as I do jerk off and be done with the thought. I'd honestly rather build my perfect women in a virtual world or hit the iron at the gym than deal with the constant selfish women. If you don't have money, aren't some two inch bicep king bitch boy, who thinks he is cool and very tough having lots of resources at his hands then women won't respect you! You needs lots of money for them because in the end just being committed to each other is not what they really want. This doesn't mean turn gay either guys or let women convince you that's why you're turned off by them. It's just a means of coming to maturity. Enjoy your life and when the urge for a girl comes around just remember masturbation is your friend! The world is a cruel, dark gruesome place. I honestly don't even want kids now that I have met woman and more so understand the world and how it works. I'd rather save my unborn children from the pain an sorrow and this cold dark earth and the rest of the world dig themselves a grave fighting over selfish desires. I'm very content and become sane again when I'm left alone as much as possible as an individual in this world. This really does go for all things especially women. You'll find the silence will destroy the selfish, greedy, corrupt in this world as it restores you and makes you whole again. Let the women have their greedy men that think they are worth the time. It's those greedy fools who are just as bad as them and the good guys the ones worth it who will die alone. Real men stand alone!
you are totally right ! burn the filthy pigs evil witches ! to hell