Are you The One?
Are you The One? Or just another drunken mistake he'll regret in the morning?
So, are you "The One?" Probably not. Why? Because you're not sure. The cool thing about love is that you never doubt it. You know.
If you're not sure, ask yourself why. Not why aren't you sure, but why aren't you gone?
When someone loves you YOU know it.
They do stupid things. They don't care about being cool. They think about you all the time.
Sound romantic? It is.
But don't worry, it won't last. (In fact, it won't last more than 2 years—tops—according to research.) Still, if you don't have it for the first five years of a relationship, then you ain't got shit.
And if you are questioning whether or not you are The One for them, then you probably aren't. Check out time. Bellhop? Take their bags!
Wasting time with people who aren't The One just makes you older, uglier and less likely to find someone who IS the One. Cut them loose now.
Guys will stay in a relationship because he's getting regular sex (without having to put in the heavy upfront "hitting on" effort). A woman will delude herself into thinking "it will get better".
It won't.
In fact, odds are it'll get worse.
The romance will fade slowly away, imperceptibly at first, until you both have so much invested in the relationship that you CAN'T leave because that would mean admitting you both made a huge mistake. Then, for some reason, many couples will decide to have kids.
Do you truly feel like they think you are The Shit? Then you aren't. Don't be too upset. Take it like the piece of used meat that you are, and hit the road.
A sad but true intro
I guess I hang around for the games. Treat him mean and keep him keen, that kind of thing. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't and when it does it fades quickly.
I haven't experienced that sick with love feeling for 3 years and I'm looking forward to many more loveless days and nights...happily I might add.
this is so true
Women need to stop the lie they keep telling themselves and look at realty and woman up.
Woman Up
So true....thanks for the encouragement. If I have to ask, it's obvious I am not sure. If I am not sure, there's doubt. If I doubt, that's my instinct telling me that it won't work! Hello! Can't be your BTN (better than nothing) girl anymore! Bye!
Its always games with women
Its always games with women isn't it?
It's Always Games With Women Isn't It?
Someone once told me that love is a game. I don't believe that. I won't play with someone....ever, (I am female). I don't think it is normal to play with another person or manipulate them. It's a game if one of you isn't in love and you aren't being honest enough to go your own way and you are just schlepping the other person along. If you are really in love things just happen naturally....that's my take on it! By the way, I think men are really high maintenance!
Nonsense
I am sorry that is such non-sense. everything you put down on this site is in these black/white terms. He either thinks you are THE ONE or he doesnt. He either loves you deeply or he couldnt give s shit. Man, it doesnt work that way. People are a little more complicated than that and if i went by all the black and white thinking you suggest, I would hate every guy I meet and be angry and bitter all the time, cause I am NEVER THE ONE for someone rightaway. There are guys who dont want to fuck everything that moves and there are women who dont want relationships..You cant go around clasifying people and relationships with this ultimatum kind of attitude.
The one thing I have learned though is that you just need to start not giving a damn - I mean REALLY not give a damn. If someone calls or wants to get together with me, great...I'd love to if I can, I enjoy their company, even if I am not the one...and if they dont call, then they dont call and i move on to find happiness elsewhere. Wasting your time thinking about people who DONT GIVE YOU THE TIME OF THE DAY is what makes you ugly and unhappy - not the thought of not being THE ONE who has been delivered to your soul-mate by the relationship messiah.
umm well put.. i wish i
umm well put.. i wish i could think like you.. i just keep thinking it will get better....... somedays it is and it makes up for all the shit, then there's the shit and here I find myself here at relationshit....
"People who DONT GIVE YOU THE
"People who DONT GIVE YOU THE TIME OF THE DAY is what makes you ugly and unhappy and the thought of not being THE ONE who has been delivered to your soul-mate by the relationship messiah."
Had to change this quote around a bit to suit me....yeah, definitely can't think that each person you date is "The One!" Learned that the hard way. I guess what you are trying to say is that each of us has to live our lives doing things that make us happy and if during the course of this we encounter love, great! That kind of love stands a good chance of happening.....not just waiting to be "delivered".
Oh, and unrequited love truly is "crucifixion"!
So true
That's so right on the money. So true. You sound like a mature and strong person. Wish I could be as strong as you.
Best of luck.
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I LOVE THIS SITE N EVERYTHIN ON IT!! WISH ID FOUND IT SOONER..!!
He could be PATHOLOGICAL
If he's a narcissist or sociopath you might never know and get stuck in his soul-sucking games forever. These men appear normal & very charming.
Read lovefraud.com or saferelationships.com and get out of the clutches of some psycho!
HELL YEAH
Guys are just dicks that's the bottom line, therefore you need to learn how to play their games and play, play, play, the "love fairytale" does not exist, so make sure you use guys: looks, money, position, anything that you can get out of them so in the end when its over you know at least you got what you wanted, shit its all about hustlers
cat lady
the future cat lady team is at it again. you cant hide bitch, good luck at finding someone who has any of those for you with your fat skanky worn out self. and i would give some advice to counter the dumb ho but being a man i will not give you any more edge than you over entitled over expectant ungrateful hos are already. Appearing broke saves alot of stress, hair, unwanted children, snobby cunts like you, and possible a phonebook thick list of stds i have prevented myself from getting by avoiding tramps that cant even be proud enough to stand on the corner for a couple hours to affirm your position in life. im sure youd settle for a man who rides the bus and lives at mommas house and eats her cooking every night still. and im sure you have digging that extra couple bucks off him a day and trying to front as a hustler. i got nothing for you ho but a dick in your mouth and a naturally reactive smile on your face. very stupid bitches all around the globe now, have fun milking a yuppy dry and being seen a complete worthless sack of shit for being with that type of pussy anyway to anyone that really matters.
this is insane
I love this site. I do, but some of this crap or SHIT is so profoundly unnecessary. I can't deal with thinking like this. For instance, the cat lady suggestion was so fucking mean. I love angry comments, I love venting, I love all of it but there has to be a healthy line here, some sort of respect for others, the opposite sex and yourself no matter what your orientation. Why- because we are all human, and everyone deserves a chance. If I thought like the guy that commented on cat lady, I don't know how I would truly build loving, worthwhile relationships with my partner or my friends. People are people, there is no game, just be the best self you can be, and remember, you are worthwhile.
All the time?
Someone who thinks about you all the time isn't in love, they're obsessed. They're a junkie, and you are their drug of choice.
Love doesn't mean devoting 100% of yourself to another person, and trying to do so is just plain unhealthy. It places you in a position of dependence and as the previous article said, if you find yourself needing that person, it's time to get professional help.
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