- Section 1: Get Over Him
- Section 2: About guys.
- Section 3: Getting guys
The real reason he broke up with you.
Short of a death in the family, breaking up is one of the most painful, agonizing ordeals you will ever have to go through, regardless of which side of it you are on.
For the breaker, it's a guilt-ridden festival of self-loathing, panic and desperation. For the breakee, it's a tortuous, existence-shaking, pail of hot acid splashed in the face.
It's one of the few lose-lose situations you'll ever get into. Nobody wins, everybody is damaged. It's almost enough to put you off dating altogether forever. One bad break-up can scar somebody for a ridiculously long time.
So why get into a relationship? Because we are biologically wired to do so (Thanks, God...). It's the classic moth-to-the-flame scenario. We are drawn into the very situations that will most probably hurt us. Nice, huh?
Did you get fucked?
That's the deal and no amount of bitching or moaning is gonna change it. Relationships that go bad, for whatever reason, are painful. End of story. But how do you tell the difference between an honest, but ugly breakup, and a professional ream job?
Tired of seeing your Ex all over town? Use 
Travelocity and blow town.
First, don't assume that just because someone broke up with you that it was malicious. People are historically bad at breaking up (regardless of sex). No one teaches a class "How To Breakup With The Person You've Been Sleeping With For The Last Two Years Without Hurting Their Feelings". Frankly, it can't be done. So don't blame them for not trying harder.
They DO, however, owe you the favor of being straight-up about it.
If a relationship isn't working for both parties, then it's not working period, and keeping it on life-support is just a waste of everybody's time. So pulling the plug and ending it soon is the right thing to do, no matter how painful it appears to be (it'll only be more painful later).
Why all the bullshit?
Yet, many people dodge the painful truth and candy-coat it with lies. Why? Because nobody can handle the truth. Society has taught us to take "I don't think we're right for each other" to mean, "You suck."
Other famous break-up lies include, "It's not you, it's me" which roughly translated means, "It's you." Another good one is, "You deserve someone better" which means, "I deserve someone better."
You're not THAT huge a loser.
But even the harshest trashing doesn't mean you're a worthless pile of dogshit unfit to soil the shoe of a pedophile.
All it means is that the person you thought you loved, is really a rat-faced, crack-addled, child-molesting, dork-swallowing, scum-licking piece of undigested corn in a heap of dog feces.
So cheer up.
='( that is so true....
='( that is so true.... *Skin falls off from acid burn*... =(
Ha, yeah, I'm the one in the
Ha, yeah, I'm the one in the last quote. Since then I've moved on, and guess who's been ringing my phone of the hook? Yep, you guessed it! The universe works in odd ways...
Run as fast as you can... or
Run as fast as you can... or change your phone number. No need for a repeat.
truth
you speak truth... lol
Halo
the truth is great... Thank
the truth is great... Thank you!
Crazy Shit
Crazy Shit
Why not
You are probably better off. Good riddence I'd say. Guys are great at making things out as if it's the girl's fault - hell they even do it for fun sometimes.
Thank god! This page just
Thank god! This page just gave me hope...my dickhead ex didn't even have the balls to tell me to my face, he sends me a text message that he "fell out of love" and then a week later it's "I didn't mean to say that" and then 2 HOURS later it was, "i don't want a relationship" EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS!!! And how low is this-last day I saw him, he borrows money from my parents AND my brother and never pays them back. Karma is a bitch and the revenge will be sweet!
"I was ambivalent about a long term relationship"
I felt soooo certain he loved me. (No, I was not high on crack - just plain wrong. This brings up major questions about my intuition, which I will not trust again.)
He was falling over himself to be with me. He would act like a geek. He couldn't get enough. And then 'smack.' "I just don't think this is going to work out."
Two days later he is desperately calling. "I didn't think this meant we wouldn't talk." Hello? You broke my heart? What the hell do you think?
That was six months ago. And I am stuck. He rules my thoughts. Rationally, I know this is sick. We have gone out since then as "friends", both knowing we need to maintain boundaries. But he seems to be confused about the boundaries and I let it happen. We always enjoyed time together and had seriously hot sex (physical chemistry was never wanting, but this may be the problem.)
So why the hell, if we have great chemistry and I make him "feel like [he] can be [him]self", and we laugh and blah, blah, blah, does this not work? I probably know the answer, but I need to hear someone say it like it is and my therapist is in Hawaii for the next month.
Yeah I thought my bf of 2
Yeah I thought my bf of 2 years loved me but then dumped me and then asks if we can still talk and be friends and I said under one condition: "No sexual relations whatsoever!" It's payback time.
im crying my eyes out and
im crying my eyes out and laughing at the same time.
what a waste of two years.
haha
i just had a horrible thing happen with this guy i liked and this just made my day..it made me smile after crying :)
so...
fucked me. burn me alive.
oh yea
that was his line...
"you deserve someone better"
and got with someone else the next day *rolls eyes*
You deserve someone better
translates to I found someone else and I dont want to feel guilty but I am letting you go so I can be with them without complications..
Guys who trap you into making a decision so they can walk away
They bate you and make you feel like you were suppose to make a decision. Just because they don't have the balls to come right out and tell you they want to be with you. They then proceed to treat you like shit and ignore you. If they were so into you that they now can't even be in the same room and be human then why the hell can't they just be honost. They have to run from their feelings and make you wonder. Keeping you on the hook or making you feel like you are the one that is fucking crazy. I hate this shit. I hate that I can't get closure because he insists on acting like a prick months later. Get over it, so I can you stupid self obsorbed asshole.
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