Beauty doesn't guarantee happiness.
Remember what we said about Hollywood being the cause of all your troubles? Well, they are. They are disciples of the Cult of Attractiveness. But in truth, looks are temporary.
Sure, they affect your dating decisions, but you don't want to get bogged down with looks before you know you're gonna like what's inside. A doughnut looks good on the outside, but you don't want to buy it until you know it's not liver-filled, right? Yeah, nobody likes surprises like that. (You've probably had enough of those already if you're at this website).
If you want proof, buy "Fair Game" starring Cindy Crawford, or any Sylvester Stallone movie. They are two (arguably) good-looking people, but DAMN! We mean, c'mon, who could put up with those vapid personalities for more than a few weeks? Money notwithstanding, of course...
So stop trying to compete on looks. It's a losing battle. Because ten minutes from now, someone better looking is going to come by. You simply can't be the most attractive person in the world. At least, not for very long. Nobody can. So you always run the risk of being dumped. What security is there in that? None.
Do an end-around and get someone to like your personality first. Take out a personal ad in the local paper, or try an online service like Alt.com or Matchmaker. Click here for help writing an ad that actually WORKS.
Personality keeps people. Not looks.
Develop an attractive personality and no one else can beat you on that. Because it takes time to get to know someone. And once someone likes you for your personality, you have a cushion against interlopers (ie—better-looking people who want to sleep with your date).
Your current partner would have to invest a lot of time to find out if the new person is better than you and many times, won't bother, assuming they're sufficiently happy with you. It's just a waste of time (and who knows, the new person might be psycho). If you've got a good thing going, most normal people won't purposely screw it up. If they do, they may have other issues (that you want to be as far away from as possible).
Looks are important, but they are not a reason to commit your life to someone. Don't fall in love with someone just because they're attractive. Frankly, there are LOTS of attractive people in the world. If looks are all you're after, move to a warm climate. The people are better looking and often have less "attitude" because there are so many other attractive people around (they can't get too cocky cuz another hottie will be around any minute).
That's the beauty of going after people who base their self-worth on their looks. They'll always be one-upped by the next year's model. Plus they're often not as bright, so you can work them easier. It's win-win.
Of course, many are just smart enough to want someone richer than you...
Very true
When things start saggin' and draggin' and looks start to fade
, all the spoiled, so called beautiful people are going to wish they had someone to look past their superficial.
I think a lot of the dating
I think a lot of the dating sites are a great place to find decent matches but if you have the looks you don't even need that. Everytime you go out with friends you'll have at least a couple of opportunities to start a new relationship which of course doesn't mean those relationships will work out or make you happy. Finding a lifetime partner is not something everyone manages to do. Maybe it's pure luck for all I know...
The problem with going online
You could post the most twisted ad imaginable and still get hits. I tried that once, just to see what would happen, and by the end of the week there were three responses. This would be depressing if the ad was for a normal person, but even ONE response to THIS ad, EVER, was just plain scary.
Then again, maybe I'm looking at the situation too pessimistically. Perhaps it could mean that if even the most psychotically twisted pervert can find a mate, normal people really don't have any excuses.
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