The female approach to falling in love.
When looking for a prospective mate, men essentially want a woman to fuck, and women just want a man who can provide for her future offspring. These decidedly different end goals force men and women to operate at cross-purposes, each stuck having to trade favors to get what the other truly wants. For example, men agree to marry a girl with the understanding that it will lead to regular sex (only to later learn that by “regular sex,” women meant infrequent and dispassionate sex). And women agree to have sex (at least in theory) with the understanding that it will lead to marriage and children.
It’s like the old adage says, Men give love to get sex, and women give sex to get love. And, while that saying’s true for the most part, it’s a terrible deal for women. Men may be hard-pressed to fake an orgasm, but most can fake love pretty easily.
Not surprisingly, this sex-for-love approach proves disastrous for women. It’s a story as old as time itself: Boy tells girl he loves her, boy gets sex from girl, then tells girl to hit the bricks.
Yet literally centuries later — despite mountains of evidence and experience to the contrary — there are still women who insist on using that approach (which is probably why teen pregnancies are on the rise and successful relationships are harder to find than Amelia Earhart).
Against all reason, women consider these emotionally driven decisions to be perfectly reasonable ones. (“Putting your hand into a blender is okay as long as you do it for love!”). They’re endlessly willing to gamble on lottery-style odds, falling in love with men regardless of whether the relationship is workable or not (“He’s just misunderstood! I can make him stop serial killing...”). It’d be endearing, if it wasn’t so insane.
Most guys, by contrast, realize early on that, when it comes to life-altering decisions, their brain (or what passes for it) is best suited to making the call. When men let other body parts do the thinking, they end up spooning with some ugly girl and having to chew their own arm off.
More often than not, men go into a relationship pragmatically, deciding whether or not they can live with a girl, before getting emotionally attached. That way they get to really know a girl before they fall in love. Men need to view love more seriously than women do because they have so much more to lose — least of which is the freedom to have sex with other women.
Once they commit to a relationship, men quickly become invested emotionally and that’s scary, uncharted territory for them. Women, on the other hand, fall in love often and easily. It’s a casual lark, like riding a roller coaster (or shoplifting). For women, falling in love is less taxing because they’re more comfortable with traumatic emotions than men.
If a relationship goes to shit on them, women just cry a lot, eat ice cream and wallow in the sympathy of friends and family. Some women love the drama of falling in love and breaking up so much that they’ll go out of their way to create problems if a relationship is going too smoothly. If that sounds insane to you, that’s only because it is.