Do you even love her?

First, do you actually love her? Don’t confuse liking someone with being in love. There are lots of reasons to like a girl — well enough to fuck her, at least — but that doesn’t mean you’re in love with her, regardless of what your dick is telling you (it tends to lie in these situations, you know).

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Conversely, don’t confuse her loving you with her being in love with you — they’re different things, too. Being “in love” implies a relationship of some kind — reciprocal, in that not only do you love someone, but that someone loves you back every bit as much. You both need to feel lucky to be with the other — if you don’t, it’s only a matter of time before you’ll both start fielding other offers.

If you can’t tell how you feel about her, ask yourself how you feel when you’re around her (besides hornier than an African White rhino). Does being around her make you feel more like who you really are, or do you feel the need to be someone else around her (i.e. someone she likes)? Do you respect her or just tolerate her because you can’t find someone else to fuck who’s better looking? Do you feel like she’s a top priority, or do you forget she exists when she leaves the room?

Finally, if you’re wondering whether she’s the right kind of girl for you, then she probably isn’t. Why? Because you’re not sure; if you have to ask, she isn’t. The handy thing about really being in love is that you never doubt that you’re in love.

When you love a chick, you actually do “know it,” as old people say. You won’t have to wonder; it’ll be obvious. Painfully obvious, to everyone around you, if not to you. Guys in love often do stupid, embarrassing things.

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Guys who are in love don’t care about being cool. They only care about being around their girl. Sounds fucking romantic, doesn’t it? Well, it is (don’t worry, the feeling won’t last). And if you don’t have that kind of confidence in your feelings, then you don’t have shit. Well, that’s not entirely true; you’ve got a fuck-buddy. (She just doesn’t know it yet.)