Does she annoy you?

Another question to ask yourself is, Does she annoy you? Because people don’t change and women, also being people, don’t change either (at least, not for the ‘better’). Ultimately, women will be who they are. They’ll act according to their nature, and there’s nothing you can do about it.

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Oh, you can force them to change through coercion and/or emotional blackmail, but given half a chance — or half a six pack — they’ll revert right back to the way they were, maybe worse. That’s why when a woman has a troubling trait that you just can’t (or won’t) deal with you’ve got to dump her ass. Right. Fucking. Now.

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Don’t think you can change her, or that, if she loved you she would change, because she can’t, and won’t. People will do many things for love, but changing their basic nature or personality isn’t one of them. One day, she’ll be old and gross-looking (like you) and all you’ll have left is her personality; so you’d better like it. A lot. It’s gonna be around for a while.

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Instead of trying to change her, try changing the one thing you can change — your attitude about the problem. Maybe what’s annoying you isn’t that bad. Is it really THAT gross the way she gargles? Or picks her nose? Or farts all the time? Or masturbates with a baseball bat while you’re at work? If it is, do her the huge favor of not insisting that she spend her life with such an uptight pain in the ass as you.

Of course, the issue with your significant other may just point out some issues that you yourself need to resolve. Your reason for despising this specific trait could stem from being traumatized or scarred somehow — by a controlling or insane parent — in which case you should seek counseling to deal with it. No matter the problem — if you think it’s insurmountable — it probably is. Don’t doom her to a life of nagging and criticizing you until you lose it and saw her in half. Let her go. Break it off.

Nobody’s perfect — you’re certainly not — so don’t expect her to be. Still, some women are more perfect for you than others, and you’re not doing anyone a favor by settling for one that’s just okay.