Do you share common goals with your date?

Another important attribute to look for in a bitch is shared, common goals (beyond “not being single,” we mean). This may seem like basic stuff, but for many couples, life-goals are a major point of conflict. Both you and your woman need to want the same things out of life — it sounds easy, but then so does juggling chainsaws.

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We all carry lots of mistaken childhood beliefs and expectations into marriage: Men generally imagine marriage as the beginning of an unlimited fuck-fest of sexual intercourse and endless orgasms. Unfortunately, women tend to think of marriage as the end of being sexually attractive and putting out. (So technically, guys DO get screwed a lot in marriage, it’s just metaphorically.)

Right out of the gate, men and women have different goals and objectives for getting married. These differences lead to friction in a marriage. And marital friction leads to starting over as the “creepy old, divorced guy,” so find this stuff out in advance because it only gets worse later on.

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When it comes to having common life-goals, “close enough” doesn’t count. Be certain — don’t assume that when she says she “like kids” that she wants to have them burst forth from her uterus. There’s a big difference between thinking kids are cute, and wanting to spend 48 screaming hours in labor pumping one out.

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What if you want to travel a lot but she wants to stay home and raise a family? What if you want to live on love while she wants to live on caviar? What if you want a hip downtown loft while she wants a charming Tudor in the country? What if you crave a Porsche Turbo Carrera while she covets a Dodge Caravan? Then you have problems, friend. Incompatible goals spell trouble with a capital-T, and that stands for “Therapy bills” (really big ones).

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To make matters worse, a woman’s goals often change over time. What women want when they’re twenty is much different from what they want when they’re thirty, forty and beyond. Just because you got an answer you liked when you first met her doesn’t guarantee she’ll feel the same way after her furniture is moved in. Take the extra time to find out how women really feel about important goals. Remember, it’s a woman's prerogative to change her mind, so a woman’s promise isn’t worth the paper your divorce settlement will be printed on.