Confused. Booty Call? Crush? WHAT?!

Technically I met this guy before, it was a hazy night and we exchanged digits but I didn’t remember him well just that we was good looking. It all began on the way to a party.

Love effing sucks. Bitch Boards Bitch About Guys Confused. Booty Call? Crush? WHAT?!

Viewing 2 reply threads
  • Author
    Posts
    • #2604 Reply
      MODERATOR
      Keymaster

      Technically I met this guy before, it was a hazy night and we exchanged digits but I didn’t remember him well just that we was good looking. It all began on the way to a party. We were both a little drunk and decided we didn’t want to go to this party at all and decided to just head back and kick it in my house. I came back to get some things and change from my party outfit to something more comfortable. He took and advantage and kissed me unexpected. I’m guessing it was expected since all our actions sort of implied other things but I acted weird since I did not expect it at all (My mistake, I know!). We didn’t talk for some good time after that night we just hung out. I thought he might have hated me since I acted that way. Later on, a friend of mine and a friend of his talked and all that time I thought he hated me for that, he thought I hated him for doing that (Hate is a strong word so not exactly hate but around that). We didn’t talk still though until one of my friends convinced me to text him and make that an option for me since in the end things were at clear. I did so and we ended up meeting up later on that same day. We walked together and were both a little drunk but who cares and then we finally made out. After that we began to hook up very often (twice a week or so). Although I always had to be the one to hit him up, we’d always meet up or meet at a party and know we’d end up together in the end of the night. I guess I jumped into it quickly, I don’t fucking know but it was sort of relationshipy but without the emotions. As in we’d talk about serious stuff, our mutual interests and joke around with each other. I felt like we were both really comfortable with each other and what we were doing. We’d head over to his place, do the nasty haha and he’d move over and make space for me to spend the night and that was our routine.

      Of course, I admit this, as a girl, I over think many things, especially something like this! So I was unsure of what we were going at in this cardinal “relationship” we were both going through. We both realized we need to talk about this but failed to comunicate anything. I didn’t want to ruin what I had because I had someone to sleep with you know, but I felt like my emotions were beginning to get involved and had to halt this or get things straight. In the end he told me he “didn’t know what he wants” but wasn’t looking for a relationship. I just wanted to know what to say since I didn’t want to scare him off. I’m not looking for a relationship either but I won’t mind pursuing on something I see some potential in like this right here. I guess what’s confusing me is his actions and how he acts versus what he says. I feel, typical shit here, that he’s different around me but then again why wouldn’t he be if we’re already on that intimate level. I had a drunk rant and begin to pick a fight with him (Don’t ask why, I was just drunk, I don’t even know why I did it). I was clearly belligerent and he was sober (as in he acknowledged I was drunk texting him) trying to be the sober mind in that chaos. I felt like shit the next morning and texted him apologizing for stepping out of my turf and just being chill since i knew I made an ass out of myself and he’s chill enough to get over it. After that we haven’t spoken I do see him often and we do say hi to each other but I don’t know if I should text him if I still want the booty call or is it time to move onto the next one! HELP!

    • #5609 Reply
      Anonymous
      Guest

      I’m in a similar situation right now, in the sense that there’s mutual respect and admiration, lots of failed communication, surprising comfort level, lots of over thinking on my end followed by drunk rants etc
      and I’m going to use the words you used to communicate with him.
      When I told him about how my friends were scared for me, because they think I’ll be getting hurt, he dumped me. What he said while he was at it was along the same lines, just a little messed up because he told me he cant envision a future with me just because.
      that hurts.

      I’m going to keep my cards open though all my friends think i’m being naive. It’s just how i do things.

      I guess it’s the heat of the moment. Here’s how it might be working; You reach a significant level of intimacy, figure out that your partner is eligible for serious shit according to your standards. And there; you have attachment. Serves one.

      I try to keep reminding myself of everything thats wrong with him. It helps me realize that I’m disillusioned about him and I glorify him in my head, but I guess thats also my way figuring out I really like someone. Regardless, it’s good to know the difference between what a man is worth and what your feelings for him are worth.
      It helps you protect your self esteem.

      For now, I’m waiting for things to settle down. Eventually we’ll find out whats in store for us. Maybe I’m being cynical, but I think he’s going to move on to the next new girl with a personality thats willing to be in my place without asking for anything in return. And one day he’ll meet someone he can work on his commitment issues for. I’m not saying I’m not good enough. Maybe I’m just not the right kind of good enough for this work of art dude.

      And what about the fact that I would commit to him though Im enjoying being single as well? I guess some people are better wired for commitment. It’s probably an inconvenient talent or something.

      I guess whatever happens happens. got served with rejection. So what? We’re adults and we’ll deal with it like adults.

    • #5610 Reply
      Anonymous
      Guest

      similar situation as above..i met with a guy he is older way older like 26 vs 45.. yeah i know..initially i was in it for the sex but he made it clear that he doesn’t share and i have to be only his..so i did…. we have been going on ok…great sex….but the intimacy was lacking…..now im at a place where i think i need more out of the relationship and i think we not on the same level…do i just stay and go with his flow or leave wen i have a little dignity……

Viewing 2 reply threads
Reply To: Confused. Booty Call? Crush? WHAT?!
Your information: